yes ah bros. thank you. i handle myself. if i fall, learning exp and share exp.
is not easy to read ppl mind..

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我感动天感动地怎么感动不了你
明明知道没有结局却还死心塌地
我感动天感动地怎么感动不了你
总相信爱情会有奇迹都是我骗自己

Sincere advice, "Don't read people's mind, read your own first."

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I missed my most noble clan of scholars.

See C&W, this guy still cant c that he's self KCed
Keep thinking its her KCing him...
Amazing ya...hehehehe

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The 4 Golden Rules in life:
1) 不要背叛自己
2) 不要出卖自己
3）不要欺骗自己
4）不要对不起自己
是你的，就是你的。
不是你的，不要抢！

WTF do you mean "if" i fall. you will fall if you continue this. braddah get a grip on your life and what you are doing which is nothing but hurting youself more down the line. quit now. this is my last message to you. if you dont follow what we say then like sam said you get what comes to you. you are f ing yourself up.

bro u r KCed big time liao. gd luck man.

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Youth, Sasha, Lexon, Leisure, Dragon

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I have this phobia too that one day my Zhuhai friend will tell me the same thing right in my face. We have gone from sms to email to daily QQ chats.
Have visted her 3 times already so far this year & planning to see her again soon. Yes I have also lost focus in my work, become irritated when she does not answer my sms, thoughts running wild when she stays out late etc etc

Thank for all the reply and everyone have different thinking...
Striaght forward answer.

If the WL gal trick your feeling and the money.
is you happily willingly. no body force you to give them money. if you can afford to give . PPl may say you are fat pig but you song. gan yan tio bo.

If you buy something for your gf, in the end she KC you, sleep with other ppl. same also. they may be very innocent, but behind a close door???
PRC they may be bad but they are human being also. mother children.

I am not being stubborn nor i am not listening to all the exp bros here. i am here to share and see what all bros think.

At the end of the day, a wrong move , blame yourself, no return then count yourself unlucky. remember that KTV story, a man die cause of a PRC at dong meng ( Jalan Sultan )...

I know myself, even if she KC me or trick me or whatever shit.

So bros pls if you think i stupid or what the PRC always say SA BI....
you are still a happy man. she dun force you. PRC may trick your money, is you willingly give her. she didnt force you to give her money.. Tio BO?

Once again i thank all bros here for your reply. i know what is going to happen to me and her..... thank again.

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我感动天感动地怎么感动不了你
明明知道没有结局却还死心塌地
我感动天感动地怎么感动不了你
总相信爱情会有奇迹都是我骗自己

Bro its not amazing that he did not know he's self-kc, Everyone walked into the trap with their eyes wide open, somehow some bros are lucky there's a alarm bell ringing in their head and are shown an open door to get out.

TS is so amazing that he sees the door and yet he could safely say 'its ok i can still manage. guess i'll come by later'!

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世间人,
法无定法,
然后知非法法也;
天下事,
了犹未了,
何妨以不了了之。

Time to retire in Singapore

It seems that you have already plan you path. Just hope you can truly pull the plug when the times come. All the best TS

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世间人,
法无定法,
然后知非法法也;
天下事,
了犹未了,
何妨以不了了之。

Time to retire in Singapore

Wah, Bro.,! your story exactly same as mine!! and I'm still in this trap!!. It will go on and on until the WL suck you dry.......that's why I'm almost bankrupt..but "she's not in this relationship for the money!!!

Bro,

I know what you are going through and I have been there myself. The bills mounting, you need to make her happy no matter what it costs, you have to be at her every beck and call and so on.

But like I mentioned before, it is not gong tau. It may not even be self KC. It is just that you want it to carry on because you cannot stand the thought of losing out. Maybe losing her, maybe if you lose her, you confirm lose the money you spent or the time you gave. You hope for the best, maybe to return to the heaven you once had.

But then you know what the end will be, the only problem is whether the end will be of you choosing or her's. Many people feel that they cannot let go, they must know, they must find out and if the answer is inconclusive, they will just hope that it was a mistake and that they are different. You are not different. You are one of the many many bros who get KC'd everyday for their time or their money.

Like the sub prime mess, you must know when to call it quits, walk away and lick your wounds. If not, you will end up drained and lifeless. No girl is worth... I say again... no girl... Normal, WL or FL is worth the trouble where you have to worry about whether she loves you, whether she is being faithful, whether she is KC'ing you and so on. Ask yourself what else can she give you. GFE? Many others can do so for the same price or sometimes even for free. Sex? Same thing. Marriage? I do not think I want to nor do I have the strength to marry a WL or FL. Looks? Again, unless she is so special, I do not think so.

So if it looks as though the pros are not as many as the cons, then you have to decide to walk away or not. If not, then you are just allowing yourself to be led down the path to destruction. If you think that it is not worth it, then walk away. It is never easy to have a clear mind or to follow your instincts and or brain. But if you look at it this way, if you had a blood sibbling you are in love with in a sexual manner, how do you stop yourself? You find all the reasons not to do anything. You use your mind instead of your heart or small head. It is the same thing. Aren't you sick and tired of being the little doggy of a pros or ktv girl or PRC mei mei? What can they give you that warrants you having to beg borrow and steal for her time or her heart? If you think of it this way, you will find it easier to let go.

I wish all you bros luck and strength.

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Dear TS,

Money lost can be earned back. Walk the path of emotional deprivation is something that you cannot easily overcome. You said it yourself, the man in Dong Men.

If you are unable to walk away now, what makes you think you can walk out later? I have been to hell and back. I know what it's like, how you pick up the pieces, cos all your friends obstracized you, "see, 自己拿苦来身!" (Cantonese) "Pathetic idiot!".

Mind you, at this stage you already had lost focus in your work and sleep. Do you think your boss will understand? There will be tell tale signs, and the minute your slacken in your work, your boss may even has to fire you.

Your latest post showed a serious flaw, you wanted to portray yourself to be a confident person. Well, sorry, what I see is someone who got messed up pretty badly, not knowing what he wants, and is on the way of getting hurt, Big Time!!

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I missed my most noble clan of scholars.

Ok, based on the previous few cases of KC (others and mine), this is how your own thoughts can be interpreted from what you did.


"She call me, i mia (you lun and lun), she sms me, after awhile (got a little confidence to act cool liao) i reply

i am sorry, i think we got to stop seeing e.ach other cause i already fall for you. there no progress in us at all (pls beg me to see you again becos) being togther with you is always very happy, same time it hurts me and slowly i will fall in love with you (and I hope you really love me too). from the start we shall not be togther, is a trade (pls tell me it is not a trade). you are here for money and i got no money for you (now I decide not to pass you money becos I'm starting to hear many 'bad' things about your real intention) and i cant afford to play your game. that my true word. take care (pls reply me now)

she reply, you are over sensitive, i dun have the intension to take money from you. yes you are right i am here to work and for money. but not from you. i like your accompany, like to be with you, enjoy being with you.."

I am quite sure she has interpreted your words in the same way. Dun believe? See her reply. It is exactly what you wanted to hear.

I believe Tulan2's post is peppered with sarcasm, and tinged with a piece of bitter acrimony, fried in a banter and simmered with a superciliousness pot.

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I missed my most noble clan of scholars.

Some brothers went in such relationship with their eyes open and fully aware of the perils and pitfalls. So... what more to say?

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