This reminds me of an old friend of mine.

He also has low esteem, because he has a low paying job, is small in stature, is dark although he is chinese and was not well educated.

He has never gone out on a date.

He worked for a boss who does investments and does all the running for his boss like collecting documents, cheques etc.

In the office, there is only him and the boss.

Having lost touch with him, I was surprised to get a call for help from him.

When I met up with him, I found out that he had somehow connected with a girl and had invited her to the office one day when the boss was overseas and he was all alone.

There was some consensual touching according to him, but no penetration.

The problem was that later, the girl made a police report and it became a police case.

I had to shore up his confidence as that was all I could do.

In the end, the police gave him a warning, due to lack of evidence on the girl's part and it was a huge relief for him to have escaped something worse.

It was just a momentary lapse of judgement as he was in a room with someone of the opposite sex (oh, he used to go to satisfy his sexual urges cheaply at petain and ksr) and lust took over.

I have never questioned him as to whether it was consensual on the girl's part as it would not have done anything positive to our relationship.

Well said Bro.

TS: When a person talks about true love, looks, money and so on does not matter. What matters is whether the 2 parties connect. Connecting is the pne important point and you can only connect if you make the chance to connect.

You mentioned many bi-polar idiosyncracies of your fren, from lusting for someone to give him his sexual needs to finding a soul mate. And as bro Goodpartner mentioned, your fren has to decide which kind of girl he wants. You can have a sex goddess or a love goddess, but rarely can you find one who is both.

Please allow me to tell you of my fren. He was not that good looking. He was down and out. He also was getting old. After bankruptcy and ending in hospital, he decided to work at a home and prepare for a life there once he was ready. He found another woman who was working there and at the age of 50, he finally got married. He is mentioned in one of my previous threads. He told me that he was sure he would never get married. When he was young, no one gave him the time or the chance. In fact, he said that there was once when he approached a girl and the girl called up his office and when she found out he was only a clerk and earned only $800 a mth, she refused to go out with him again.

It works both ways lah... I also know of older woman who are 40 plus and managed to find guys interested in them too. It all depends on the person. How much he wants something. If he wants something enough, he should take the chance. A few rejections is not enough to condemn someone to a life of loneliness. If you try and fail, you pick yourself up and try again.

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bro i am afraid TS story might be longer than Chn 8 taiwan hokkien drama. basically 'his friend' problem lies with himself. i was once like that when i was in my teens, like to be alone and scared to associate with ppl but then slowly i realised this kind of attitude is not wrkable cos wherever we go and whatever we do we need to deal with ppl. this is no longer stone age whereby u can just find a cave and live there alone 4 the rest of yr life. if i nvr make an effort to change myself and start to initiate friendship with ppl as i mature i am sure i will end up like 'his friend', lonely, empty and desperate for companionship. worse still, 'his friend' seems like living in a sex fantasy world of his own who has strong possiblity of hitting the headlines anytime. i say, TS, do 'yr friend' a favour, ask him to go seek psychatric help and pour his life story to the psychatrist and hear what the doctor got to advise.

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totally agree. chemistry is the main element that holds both parties together 4 a long term commitment. sexy long legs MM can only help to satisfy the lusting small head but can never satisfy the heart if without chemistry.

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LoL...“The formulation of the problem is often more essential than the solution…” Albert Einstein

However, I'm beginning to think that TS is not here to look for a solution. Maybe TS can clarify, you're merely telling the story to ask if there are others out there living a life like your friend?

So he'll feel better he's not "alone" in this although he is lonely?

So, with a few replies stating that we know of friends who are also like your friend, the answer is a definite YES. In fact, a couple of bros say they lead the same live too.

"The answer to the question is often dismissed because of it's simplicity." - Rev. Alan Taylor

TS, actually this is a "money problem" for your friend. Once he can solve that problem and make lots of money, the rest are non issues. So the "solution" is to learn how to get financially independent

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Come on, let looks at the brighter side. This lonely guy is probably a bit of a despradro. BUT still mental aware enough to attract to the opposite sex, isnt he? mental sound enough not to break the law yet. Evil enough to beo through not tactical or experience enough only. He just needs some kind souls to tell him can release,urge, grab neh neh and call chicken here. Somemore can be done lawfully in sg

I think hor, your See Fart needs to be Tiewed.

People got story to share, listen and learn to appreciate his time and
effort. Nobody forced you to read the story tio bo? Different people has
different writing style lar. Some people don't relates the facts directly one.
You have to read between the lines to catch it. You think so easy to put everything into words meh? You yourself give it a try then you know.

You simple got no patience at all. See what brother Hum Sup Lou has
got to share further.

KC related matters are also matters of the heart tio bo? Again who forced you
to come back here to read this thread? Nobody right? Yet you are back for
more. See lar? You yourself Lan Pa Pa Lan come back here to read further.

I think your See Fart need to be Tiewed again.

Not bad huh? This brother knows how to appreciate the story and has given
some encouragement to that quiet and lonely guy.

you are simply too shallow with no substance at all. only know how to say
people. did you yourself reflect your "Man in the mirror" even before you
even claimed brother Hum Sup Lou is a Sor Lou?

whatever thread posted here be it related to kc or not is still food for thoughts.
think before you start criticizing others. i think your See Fart need to be Tiewed also.

Not bad leh. look like this brother here did read between the lines wor.
Maybe brother Hum Sup Lou only wish the voice of his friend to be heard
but he wrote it such a way in a form of story. They can be food for thoughts
to reflect ourself or perhaps someone close to us may be of similar character?

yawn..

TS gotta use 'his friend' to post his story, nw gotta use a new nick to fuck ppl. should change the title to Life of a quiet and lonely and ballless guy liao.

want to post story but cant accept reader's criticism and negative remarks? really a loser like u yrself had described. if u had bothered to read thru all my response to yr posts so far u would have realised i had already contributed many +ve pointers but it seems like u r more than happy to remain in yr current state of mind, ignoring others advice for change. well, its yr own fantasy world u r living in, nthing to do with us so pray carrying on posting yr loser story while i continue to read them with amusement.

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I see that there are some very good suggestions given here which is great.

Don't understand why someone is so naive enough to think that I really need
to use another new nick to participate in the same thread just to scold
people?

Just think about it, this forum is open up for new registration everyday.
People can easily come and go as they like. You can criticize others, others can also do the same thing to you as well. Just don't always keep thinking
that you are really the "King" in this forum.

Anyway I shall continue with the story a little further ........

After his first failed attempt for a blind date, he was rather disappointed
and miserable. However, he still continues to chat online with some of the
strangers on the other side of the terminal. There is this particular girl who
seems to be quite active in the chat and within the next few days they
start to correspond with each other very often. He gets to know that
this girl likes to watch movie, hence he decided to date her out for a show.

Their first meet up was on a weekday after office hour. They have agreed
to meet up outside McDonalds at Lido cinema. The time came and they finally
did meet up with each other. He noticed that she was rather tanned, not really pretty but her figure is not bad. After their self introduction, they head
straight to the food court below for their dinner. In the course of the dinner,
he was rather quiet. He realized that chatting on line and writing emails is
not the same when meeting up face-to-face. His mind seems to be blank
with nothing much to talk about. He tried very hard to sustain a
conversation with her at the time. Those things that he have chatted
online with her doesn't seems to be of any help for him to make up the
contents for his conversation with her. As he tried very hard to chat with
her more, he specifically noticed that her face seems to be full of tiny little
pimples with many acne scars. Her face was really rough so to speak and if
she isn't really that tanned, it will be very very obvious. He started asking
himself, can he handle the truth that a girl with some many pimples and acne
scars on her face to be his girlfriend ..........

okokok, sister.....you ho suay leh...my see fart not your food. please dont' have thoughts to tiew my see fart hor..!!.

hey brother, tell u a secret. i also just registered today as a new
member in this forum.

after reading all the correspondence in this thread, i find it quite interesting.
if i tiewed your see fart does it also mean that i am another new nick used
by mr hum sup lou to fxxx you upside down? heeheehee