Communication is important but also need actions to rectify the problems. However, if we already have no communication, how to even start talking about solutions. Our conservative SG mindset is of less communications, or rather its only my family. I really hope to communicate better with my parents and all but they seem unable to do it.

I agree that love is almost everything that brothers here have mentioned. Whether lust is to be part of love is debatable. My personal feelings is that it should be. A husband's intimate needs should be satisfied by his wife but if his wife does not fulfill that then what? Most Sg women i know sadly do not see the need to satisfy their men. Or rather they see lust even among partners as something to be frowned upon.

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Must have communications and both must give and take, cannot always take take take or just give give give ... bad for relationship

Yes, what you said is quite true.

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i m a little late on tis, barely join 2day. i m divorcee too so i can understand hw u feel. u will surely b lost 4 a while, trust me.

i tink aft divorce is a gd time 2 really think wat u can do 4 urself. i duno d details of ur divorce, n i dun nd to know. while companionship can help, i can only say it's temporary. jumping into another r/s is nt a gd idea too.

take it as a break 2 catch up wif frens, focus on more impt stuffs. if the loneliness is unbearable, i think tis forum has plenty of solutions. but anything emotionally-attached is a really bad idea nw imho.

Sorry to hear that you had a divorce.
The first thing you need to do is not to lose focus at work, and slowly forget this relationship. Enjoy the feeling of being single again,catch up with friends whom you have not contacted since you got married. do not rush urself into a new relationship.

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Think about what you've always missed out whilst being married
Think about those things you always wanted to do but could never cos you're married
Think of all those chicks you wanted to sian but didnt cos you were married
Think of all those colleagues u wanted to up but couldnt becos you were married
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A husband's intimate needs should be satisfied by his wife but if his wife does not fulfill that then what? Most Sg women i know sadly do not see the need to satisfy their men. Or rather they see lust even among partners as something to be frowned upon.[/quote]

off topic abit:
This is so untrue. How about wife's intimate needs not been able to be fulfilled by husband? It is alwys a preassumption that women have lower sex drives than men which the latter conveninently use it as an excuse to commit infidelity. There are equally large number of desperate housewives who yearn to enjoy explosive intimacy with their other half, yet been starved.

Reasons why a marriage could end up in a divorce do not occur overnite. Many factors can come into the picture. Love ceased? No more sparks? Why? Not creative anymore? Burden by career, kids? No common topic? Too much expectations? What's the reasons the couple decided to take the vow? Is it love? Is it because its time to get married and so just get marry lor. Is it so as can have a permanent sex parter? Or something else? The answer could be hidden within why a couple get married the first place.