Just went thru a nasty divorce. I'm slowly picking up the pieces now. What can i do to get over, fulfill my needs ...? No flaming please.

1.Sit down and think carefully about your financial future.No money means no happiness in this god damn world.
2.Get on with your life.Treat yourself without getting into trouble.
3.Men can have many loves.Divorce and marriage is just a piece of paper by law.
4.If you have children be a good parent to them.They and you have nothin to do with your ex.
5.Dont look back whats gone is kaput.Fuul stop.Live your life now.Not tommorrow and not yesterday.
6.Be happy with yourself that you have gooten out of a pile of shit.
7.I suppose talk more with some of the bros here who have better advice.

Bro Fireball:

I am very sorry for such things that happened to you. Dont feel sad or angry. Life has still need to go on. If u have children, be a good father to them, plan their education , edu insurance for university fees. Love your children. Maybe in a year or 2 in your life, you can find someone better that will love u and take care of u. and also be a good wife to u and a good mother to the children.

thanks bro DRSG and kiko for your kind words and advice.

final analysis is that i married the wrong person who did not have my welfare at heart. so i strayed. but i am not sure about settling down with a local ...

any bros can share thoughts on this ? I am thinking that a local is simply too demanding ...

bro, do a search wif ze word "divorce" in ze title ... dey r a few threads here on ze topic ...

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Ooops. Ok dude. Thanks.

lets put it this way bud. now adays woman be it local or any country. most of them will have some expectation. is whether u meet their expectation...

marrying a 3rd world country may seems to be good to some pple but dont forget this girls maybe coming from a villiage poor family which we think there should not be any expectation but there will always have some expectation either now or in the future.

of course there is girls who does ask a single cents. how many are there? this girls are very realistic in some way. many pple may not agree with what i said but it a true fact........ they marry us is bcos we have more $$ to take care of her n maybe their family.

i have a friend he married a taiwan girl. they meet each other in UK. Married for few yrs n have kids. his wife is very demanding she expect her husband go make 8k a mth rather then 4k a mth but my friend dont want to spend so much time working n no time for his kid n family..

another friend of mine. his gf is a cambodian been together for 3yrs. divorce with his sgp wife. once awhile go see his kid. bought a house for his gf in cambodia. seems ok but i think he start to have problem bcos he is providing not just for his gf but to his gf family.

many many example.... of course there are girls who never ask anything n come over n suffer together with my friends. work hard together to setup their own small family in sgp. no matter what there is still some expectation.

I think from the start we have to set the mindset before going into marriage. to be fair to everybody rather then pointing finger saying the other party expectation are high.... bcos right from the beginning this should have been surface.....

As i always say "It takes 2 hands to clap, so dont blame anybody but ourself"

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What are your needs ? Also depends on ur commitments from ur divorce .. and if you have kids. Such a general post, hard to say anything

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I need to be bbbj-ed for 3 times/day with 1 time CIM and 1 time COB/COF.
I am thinking of a divorce. and i have a kid.
Any suggestions?

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Here's one of them - How is life after divorce?

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Divorce rates seem to go up and up these days...too much temptation around?

Bro. A woman or rather your wife can be demanding and she doesn't have to be a local or any race for that matter. The important issue is to find a soulmate that can share your woes, wealth & happiness.

Local gals are somewhat smarter because they have better education & they know their rights. But that's not important, what's more important is that this woman must love you wholeheartedly or at least willing to sacrifice & go through thick & thin with you. Not easy to find such wife these days. Or is it that you did not commit enough into the relationship as well? It always takes two to clap....

Bro pussyman72 above said what I thought. Be prepared of other issues as well. My galfriend also expects me to provide for her family since she was working to pay off her "parental debt". But since she's with me & don't work anymore. To be fair, I told her that I can pay that debt & provide them with a roof but don't expect me to spoon feed the rest. My commitment to her is to provide for her & give her an assurance while she "repays" in kind by marrying me & taking care of me for the rest of our life. Of course we love each other but should anything arise & we split, I won't regret because it was my decision. We both made our commitments & how can we weigh the amount of sacrifices?

I have a friend whom is married and then divorced, then married again with a local gal....... Till now still married to the 2nd one. Just it only voice down to 1 word COMMUNICATIONS........ If both of you is able to do that and solve all problems then I feel it should be no problem at all. Just you luck sometimes I guess.

enjoy being single for the time being. It will take a while for wounds to heal from a divorce. Just do the things u used to do when u were single.

and when u r ready, u can play the field again. So many trees out there all waiting for u. Best of luck, bro.

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In my opinion , i feel that love is about trust , committment, willing to do anything for each other. Both parties must be understanding enough to solve differences. .. forgive and forget, give in to each other.. Communication is important in a marriage. I believe a couple should communicate to each other more to solve their problem.. I believe couples lack communication thats why lead to Divorced