i'm lose and need advise..

[<<totally>>]

Originally Posted by miyake_ck

for all the bros who have taken their precious time reading through my posted(once again im so sorry about how poorly is been written) and not too even mention wasting your happy hours to posted your thoughts and comment here. but strangely,im not looking for an answer, a matter of fact i have not idea what am i aftering! guess, it will come to me when the time is right.

nevertheless ,from deep down of my heart, i thank you all and please stay safe and healthy!

Originally Posted by miyake_ck

she felt my tone has completely change and was really sad cause she knew my faith with her was kind of gone too.
i can't tell any of my family member or friend about this issue. i know they are gonna look at her differently in the future and things is never gonna be the same again.
guys, i really needed some words of wisdom here pls.
from a man who is in great deal of pain and lost!

TS, I do admit I might be using a slightly stronger tone to voice out my comment, it is a matter of fact that the normal approach did not bring you to your senses. You can be assured that no happy hours of mine was wasted for I posted my comments in the morning.

With reference to the iq, eq, paying attention in school and education level, I am nobody with a paper qualification no higher than 'A' levels and earning a living on the streets in Geylang. My transportation is a $90 bicycle (made in china). I am no better than you in any aspects yet I do make it a point to present my comments in a way that most people do not need to re-read again or trying to figure out what I am trying to say.

I, miyake_ck, take you, Mrs miyake_ck, to be my wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

Look at the way how you sounded initially and the way you sounded now. Now to me it seems, you are trying to be the good husband and fulfilling the marriage vows. Since you have made your decision, please do not have regrets later on in your life. Why should I cared, when you yourself do not even cared. 牛不喝水强按头。

Originally Posted by miyake_ck

am just a man who have no one to turn to for advise regarding this 'issue' of mine. and so decided to start a thread hoping to find words of wisdom or 2 cent of advice from bros out there who are a whole lot smarter then i am.

Are you not smart or simply bo chup?

[cloudangel]

Syphilis doesn't know transmit via body fluids, but also things like saliva and tears.... So it might definitely mean she cheated on you, do give her a benefit of doubt...

[Diety]

I think to move forward, u need to accept what she has done. Only then can u look at option n ways to try to solve it.

[<<totally>>]

Originally Posted by miyake_ck

hi mate,

i guess u have taken my last posting in my thread too personal. i have no hard feeling against your posting in my thread. im truly appreciate your thoughts and comment which i oso respect.

please do not get upset over this mis-communication or mis-understanding. if in anyway it makes you feel any better, i apologise for whatever i have done or wrote which offended you. even thought we do not know each other in person. please take my words, upsetting you or any bros is not what i intent to do.

mate, u have a great night.

Bro miyake_ck, hope you do not mind that I quote your pm to me. That letter to me a handshake and a gesture of brotherhood. I accepted the letter and drop whatever happened behind. No hard feelings to you too. Maybe due to emotional pain, thus resulting in those posts. I do know that what you are currently going through, maybe is beyond our imagination so do take care of yourself.

If you ever need any advice again, feel free to post as the brothers here are all willing to help and shared their experiences with you.

[HowBohBuckSai]

Originally Posted by <<totally>>

That letter to me a handshake and a gesture of brotherhood. I accepted the letter and drop whatever happened behind. No hard feelings to you too. Maybe due to emotional pain, thus resulting in those posts. I do know that what you are currently going through, maybe is beyond our imagination so do take care of yourself.

If you ever need any advice again, feel free to post as the brothers here are all willing to help and shared their experiences with you.

bro totally, i admire your magnanimity and your thoughts and advices to TS..
really respect....


TS, in my humble opinion...most guys are MCP and although like what boss had said why cant we accept if we eat out our spouses also can eat out... but the hard real truth is we being Asian, I believe... still generally speaking eating out by wives are taboo and not easily accepted just like swinging, having FBs etc..

However, how one reacts depends on the love, commitment, bonding between husband and wife at that time of the incident... if this question is posed to me, I can tell you now that I tell U that I wont accept it cos i have been made a cuckoo BUT if in fact it really happened and I am faced with it... well I may learn to accept it and let go.... life is short.... when one is dead..his body etc doesnt matters anymore... only the memories linger on....so if there is love there will be forgiveness and acceptance and then move on.... there are so many live cases everyday.

Err... I shan't comment on whether your wifey tried to push her condition to u being responsible on this but like what Ichigo had suggested... talk to her and tell her to come clean on this...who, where, how but assure her u will accept and move on ( of cos omit the graphic sex part lah) provided she vowed never to cheat on u again and u likewise.

I respect and admire your decision of setting aside the feelings of being cheated and now only concentrate on her getting well but once she is well or on the way to recovery... u need to sort this out with her... this issue cannot be swept under the carpet... cos it will form an unhealed wound which could cause complication in the long run. There will always be scar ... forgive sure but forget... dun kid ourselves but learn to live with it.

Take care TS... the decision is yours to make no one else... but life is short... ask yourself will this matter, if u are diagnosed with cancer now with limited time to live, will she stand by your side etc, if the answer is yes.... learn to accept that " To err is human, to forgive is divine".

P/s

~ Fact on Syphilis ~

Syphilis is transmitted from person to person by direct contact with syphilis sores. Sores occur mainly on the external genitals, vagina, anus, or in the rectum. Sores also can occur on the lips and in the mouth. Syphilis can be transmitted during vaginal, anal, or oral sexual contact. Pregnant women with the disease can pass it to their unborn children.

Take care.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by HowBohBuckSai

bro totally, i admire your magnanimity and your thoughts and advices to TS..

"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "Advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to English Language Quiz - Countable or Non-countable Nouns (I-TESL-J) and take the test.

[iMonk]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural..

haha boss here u go again

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Since I expect my partner to be faithful to me, I therefore make it a point to be faithful to her.

I impose no values on anyone that I, myself cannot uphold.

So ironic that boss runs this web site.

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "Advice", is a non countable noun.

...

And more ironic also, if boss is actually an English school teacher.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar

So ironic that boss runs this web site.
And more ironic also, if boss is actually an English school teacher.

I don't run it for myself. I run it for you guys.

I'm no teacher. All I'm trying to do is to improve English standards in Singapore.

You have a better chance of scoring with the right sorts of chicks if you communicate in a grammatically correct manner.

[Hwei6969]

Syphilis can be transmitted through direct contact with a syphilis sore. The methods of transmission are:

By having vaginal, anal or oral sex with someone who has the infection.
From a mother to her unborn baby.
Syphilis cannot be passed on by sharing baths, toilets, towels or eating utensils.

Secondary stage of syphilis

If the infection has not been treated, the secondary stage of syphilis will usually occur from 3 to 6 weeks after the appearance of chancres. The symptoms often include:

A flu-like illness, a feeling of tiredness and loss of appetite, accompanied by swollen glands (this can last for weeks or months).
A non-itchy rash covering the whole body or appearing in patches.
Flat, warty-looking growths on the vulva in women and around the anus in both sexes.
White patches on the tongue or roof of the mouth.
Patchy hair loss.
During this stage syphilis is very infectious and may be sexually transmitted to a partner. These symptoms will usually clear up within a few weeks, but may re-occur for years.

Treatment at any time during the first two stages of syphilis will cure the infection.

Treatment is only capable of killing the syphilis bacteria and preventing further damage. It cannot repair damage already done to organs, or prevent re-infection if the person is exposed to the bacteria again.

[Hantu69]

Bro ts,

I think the decision lies with you, why don't ou and ur wife have a good talk over this isuse when her treatment is over and then decide what is the next cause of action?

Do not make decision out of implusive and regret it later, we are normal humans and no saints and made mistake, I believed that if one is repented for his/her mistake, he/she shall be forgiven. As for you husband and wife, its fated that you all are married and should treasure each other..

It's not easy to maintain a family and is up to both of you to work it out, ask yourself this question, do you cherish your wife and want to maintain this family? If yes then you will have gotta your answer..

Just my humble 2 cens worth..

[Putin]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

All I'm trying to do is to improve English
standards in Singapore.

You do know you are fighting a losing battle

[Xia406]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

I don't run it for myself. I run it for you guys.

I'm no teacher. All I'm trying to do is to improve English standards in Singapore.

You have a better chance of scoring with the right sorts of chicks if you communicate in a grammatically correct manner.

There is so much depth in this. *applause*

[Bonus08]

Here's what I am trying to understand = why TS wife call him to tell him she has Syphillis when they have not been intimate for so many months. Surely she must know, or at least she would have checked with her doctor, that she could not have gotten it from her TS (her husband). So by telling him, she is admitting to him she slept around behind his back. Why would she do that?
Since she is still looking after her father in KL, she could have just gotten treatment to cure the problem and kept quiet about it to her husband, but confront who ever she has been sleeping with...

[Bomohsg]

Originally Posted by miyake_ck

that is what i been telling myself through out the whole night.

First things first.

Maybe the truth matters. Get her to open up and tell you what really happened? Otherwise how to resolve unless both of you are honest with each other?