What should I do?

[newborn24]

Hi guys, this is my first post in SBF despite being a regular guest. Decided to ask for some advice as most bros here have more experiences compared to me. Pls pardon me for the bad grammar and language.

My girlfriend of one year plus has just broken up with me. Reason being that there was a third party and guess what, the third party is a girl
Reason that my girlfriend gave is that she feels that we have been taking each other for granted and the love between us is getting quite mundane and routine and she finds in this girl what she couldn't find in me. I also knew this girl and her sister as they were colleagues with my gf.

I admit that I have been neglecting her for quite some time due to my work commitments and busy schedule and she did tell me time and time again about the appearance of this girl that she felt something for her but I always dismissed her warnings as I thought this kind of thing would not happen to me.

2 months have passed since our unofficial break-up ... we initially wanted to stay away from each other as we wanted some time to ourselves to work things out ... During these 2 mths, I realized that I really love her and wanted to give our relationship a second chance. However, she became close to the girl and she told me she wants to be with her. My gf said she's not a lesbian and only have feelings for this girl and not other girls.

Now the problem comes when I am not sure whether should I let go of her and give her my blessings or should i persist and wait for her. I am not even sure what she is thinking some times, as the dreams we used to share, she will not be able to fulfil it with this girl, such as buying hdb flats, having kids ( even though they can adopt ) and many others ... We shared a lot of dreams and planned our life together but now my gf says she wants to spend the rest of her life with this girl ... My gf comes from a very strict and traditional family and if her family knows about this, they will surely come down on her hard and her relatives, which I am close to, will not be able to accept this ... and I am her only bf which her father accepts till this day ... I am also unwillingly to let go as I do not feel that this girl is able to provide my gf with a good life ... she doesn't even have a o' lvl cert and is still living off her parents, even though she's in the midst of starting a business which my gf is one of her partner ... but its like wtf la? This girl certainly does not have the means to protect my gf too ... I am worried cause everytime a lot of guys like to approach my gf as she is rather attractive ... My gf says she wants to live a life of her own now which she will not care about what other people say about her ... irresponsible mentality? Even though she has freedom now, how many people has she hurt or will hurt in the future? just because she wants to do things her own way ...

However, if i persist and manage to salvage our relationship, will the same thing happen again when we get married next time? I can predict that my work schedule will get busier at times so I am worried ... Its a risk I think that I have to take if I wanna win her back ...

I am not sure whether my gf is in a rebellious stage ( early 20s ) or she has discovered a side of herself which she never knew she had before ( lesbian side ) ... I do not blame her as she does not have a good family background and perhaps that why she's doing what she's doing today ... She asked me not to wait for her as she does not know whether will she come back to me in the future ... she knows she can't have the best of both world... Though we still keep in contact with each other and I am meeting her later ...

Btw, she's my first love and hence it is very hard for me to get through this ... During the time we were together, we were like the model couple and the envy of many others, we were supposed to have a bright future together but now haiz ... Initially, I overestimated myself and thought that it will be easy for me to get over her but no, I am still affected after such a long time ... Everyday I go to work smiling and joking but deep inside, the pain is slowly eating away at me. I am the type of guy who believe that my first love will be the one that I am marrying and spending the rest of my life with, perhaps a naive and stupid mentality but well ....

Any bros or sis with similar experiences or have friends with similar experiences, please give me some advice if possible? I am not comfortable in sharing this with my frends as my gf and I have a lot of common friends and I do not want to spoil her reputation ... so I am at a lost

Thanks for taking the time to read through this long post.

[Shoot To Target]

School hornydays n puppy love again!

[angelindisguise]

move on. tough pill but yes.

[QQBoy]

Once a les, always be a les. Bro, don't wait and move on..there are many real girls out there for you to bonk.

[wittyman]

Try to challenge and convince her to do MFF Then your sex life will be more exciting

[JIU XING]

she already knows wat she wan.. no point pulling her back la ts.. move on la, still have many choices.. hehehe u can pm me for which fl to look for also.. i intro u swee swee one, then u will nv regret and feel heart pain tat ur les gf is gone..

[HCKing]

life is not all abt one girl. move on bro. better luck next time.

[Big Sexy]

mate.. you are probably paying the price for neglecting her.
here's a thought..
set her free, if she comes back, she is yours..
otherwise it will be all water under the bridge after a while...

we should all cherish whatever we have and appreciate life.

[saintdevil]

Saint: understand how you feel, since its the first you probably give it your all. One of the best advise is just to move on, like you said.. you cant be there for her all the time. If she can find a gf now, she can find a bf later. Relationship build on trust, and its obvious from what you said. You cant find it in yourself to trust her to stay good after you marry her.

Devil: If you really want her back good, then get close with the girl of hers. Flirt with her gf and get as much body contact as possible. let her decide once and for all what she actually want.
Best situation, you get to try mff,
worst situation you walk away alone.. but knowing that she doesnt love you anymore like she said.
neutral grounds, you neglect her so much that she is actually trying to get a girl to spike you.

[SureScore]

Move on with your life. Let nature takes it's course. Still a forest out there.

[Cheonging101]

Bro TS, don't worry.

She will come crawling back to you when she wakes up.

Typical case of delusional and misplaced love.

But when she comes back, she will definitely go find another les lover because you will never be as good a box-eater than a woman.

[kurosaki ichigo]

To hang out with someone who's confused about her emotional needs and seeking refuge in someone of her own gender just sounds so childlike and immature.

I think you should step back and let her explore her emotions and her inclination. In the meantime, find a hobby or improve on something you're already good at.

You may even have a chance of getting a shot (make that 2 shots) with 2 lesbo chicks in future

[newborn24]

Thanks bros for your replies.

It has been hard for me to move on but I guess once her heart has changed, it will not turn back so soon. I guess I will at least move on for now ...

Seriously, I still cannot understand what does she hope to achieve in the relationship with the girl. Anyone can enlighten me?

[fazer6s]

more lesbian activities i suppose

[zxc1okt]

ever considered it might just be temporary?

you will eventually move on, as time permits, and one day, you will find yourself very blessed that you have done so