Relationship problem

[RedSotong]

Guys and girls,

I had left the commercial sex circle for very long since I met my girlfriend 5 years ago.
Since that day, i am committed to my girl only. I never go out with another girl or cheat behind her back.

2 weeks ago, I found out she cheating behind me.
And this 2 weeks, i am suffering a lot.

Recently during all the quarreling and I dig the guy out from a friend's help using his mobile number.
The more I dig, the more ugly the true review.

They have sex together, since Jan 2010, 9 months. the amount is of times they have sex, my girlfriend say she didn't count them. Then I ask more than 3 times ? she didn't answer me.

I am very hurt, and that man cheated my girlfriend too. He told her he is not married but in fact in 2007 Nov, he is married and got an apartment together.

Now I know my girlfriend is also the victim. But I am also the victim.

She told me because the feelings together with me is lesser and lesser because of this guy appearance.
This guy appearance actually make her feels i am not the guy she want to be with me.
This guy told her a lot of things and make me like a worthless jerk.

Now my girlfriend wish to have a turning point in our relationship. I love her very much.
I want to give her the chance to be together.

I not sure how many guys can accept his girlfriend again if this happens.

If the table is turn around, guy go bonk another girl, guy's girlfriend found out, will the guy hope his girlfriend forgives him ?

I am lost.

[Wuming52]

好马不吃回头草
to me i can tell her to f off
got 1st time sure got 2nd time
the moment she hav sex or wanna be wif tat guy shows tat u and her no more
now she is the victim of tat bastard den come back cryin to u...
if u 宽容 enough u can forgive her...
if the fact tat she sleepin behind ur back still bothers u..
i dun think u 2 should get back together...
anyway above is my opinion...
final decision still up to u

[naturegreen]

At least you still know your status bro. And fortunately, you are lucky, At least you are still not married with her. No matter what, she cheated on you, this will remain a shadow with you for the rest of your life. Think twice before making any rush decision afterall, you are the one facing the consequences no matter what decision you make. We can only make comments such as
1) "Go for it Bro!"
2) "Break up la. This kind of girl not worth it"
3) "Ask her go fuck off/ fuck spider lah"
4) "Ask her interested in 3some or join me and my FB in a swing session?"
etc................................
Remember, think before you move.

[RedSotong]

Did your girlfriend just cheat on you? Ouch. Any guy who hasn't had to go through that is very lucky. Whether you want to get over her or just the fact she cheated on you, I have a few tips for you.

1. Don't Think About It - The worst thing you can do is keep picturing what happened. If you keep reminding yourself about it, you're going to stay bitter about it.

Whatever happened, it's in the past now. If you don't learn how to blank it out, and you still want to pursue a successful relationship with this girl, you'll be tempted to bring it up with her and you'll always be suspicious. Not healthy.

2. Can I Trust Her? - This is a tough one, and you'll have to make your own judgement call here. Unfortunately, a lot of people who cheat are likely to do it again. Do you really want to go through the stress of knowing it might happen again? If it was a long time ago, then proceed with caution.

If you do decide to take her back, you must trust her completely or not go out with her at all; nothing in between. If you're always questioning her, asking if she's sleeping with another man, and generally getting up in arms about it, then she might give up trying and cheat on you again.

Having complete faith in your partner, even if they've cheated on you before, is your best shot at avoiding the problem again.

3. Did You Encourage Her? - Not all cases are the cheating partners' fault. If she was unhappy with you, you may have contributed to it. I'm not talking about how good you are in bed. That's irrelevant.

Were you always suspicious of her all the time? Were you always accusing her of things she didn't do? Are you controlling? Are you always jealous? These are all traits that can lead to your girl cheating on you. If she feels happy and free whilst dating you, and less of a possession, chances are she won't even think about cheating on you.

4. Is She Worth It? - Of course, the problem could be all hers. Some girls (and guys) need to feel desirable. They thrive on as much attention as they can get. If a guy wants them they can't say no. These types are usually drama queens, to top it off.

Until she grows up, don't bother. These kinds of women aren't worth your time, and you'll just find yourself frustrated. There are plenty of faithful, attractive girls out there. Don't dedicate your time, energy and emotions into a girl who can't respect what a faithful relationship is.

5. Have Some Fun Yourself - Only if you've broken up with her. I don't encourage cheating on her as payback. You'll just find yourself spiraling into a big emotional mess until both of you are left picking up the pieces alone.

If you have broken up with her, see as many girls as you like. Only date, if you don't want to have sex. Either way, when you start making female friends, you'll find yourself moving forward. You'll forget about the past, and you'll forget about your girlfriend cheating on you. You'll realize you're not missing anything, and you'll feel sorry for the next guy who dates her; you'll know exactly what he'll have to put up with.

Decide what you want and stick to it. Have you broken up and you want to get over it? Learn the best way to get over a break-up. Or are you thinking about giving her another chance, but not sure you can trust her? You know her, and you've got to decide yourself. Personally, I never give a cheater a second chance, because I know I deserve better and that I can get better.

But if you decide to give her another chance, you need to trust her completely. She may be sorry about it, and she'll want to know that you trust her. She'll want to know that you can still believe in her despite what she's done. If you can't do this, you may find the problem repeating itself.

I google for some comments online all over the world, usually it's man cheats wife/girlfriend. It's very rare a wife/girlfriend will cheat on their partner...

I am 29yrs old, she is 28yrs old.

I wish to kill that bastard seriously, he enjoying the world of both. How can a person lie about his marriage. He told my girlfriend HE IS NOT MARRIED.

When I ask him in front of his wife,
"Why did you lie, why u say you are not marry ?"
he still comment "Never host dinner."

That point of time, I wish to punch his face.

[Wuming52]

actually if i were u
i were punch him and slap her den i walk away wif pride
The "her" above is the 1 who betray u...
maybe not slap la
but punch will sure land on his face

[RedSotong]

Originally Posted by Wuming52

好马不吃回头草
to me i can tell her to f off
got 1st time sure got 2nd time
the moment she hav sex or wanna be wif tat guy shows tat u and her no more
now she is the victim of tat bastard den come back cryin to u...
if u 宽容 enough u can forgive her...
if the fact tat she sleepin behind ur back still bothers u..
i dun think u 2 should get back together...
anyway above is my opinion...
final decision still up to u

bro Wuming,

what if the table is turn around ? if you hav sex with another woman, and if you have a wife/girlfriend, and she found out ?

will your salvage your relationship ?

[naturegreen]

Bro relax, which cat will not want to eat fish outside? Thank your prayers at least you found out now rather than after you marry her. Violence will not settle anything. Just move on with life. If I were you, I'll rather just feel the heartpain now, forget it move on with life and forget her.

[RedSotong]

Originally Posted by Wuming52

actually if i were u
i were punch him and slap her den i walk away wif pride
The "her" above is the 1 who betray u...
maybe not slap la
but punch will sure land on his face

but when i manage to locate the guy, i doesn't know they already have sex.

only 2 days ago, i know about this.
If i see him again, I will break both of his balls.

[Wuming52]

Originally Posted by RedSotong

bro Wuming,

what if the table is turn around ? if you hav sex with another woman, and if you have a wife/girlfriend, and she found out ?

will your salvage your relationship ?

sleep outside include visitin whore house?
or outside got FB?
for me i dun think i will hav any FB cause i really dunno how to sweet talk and sian them...
if she found out i am visitin whore i think tats another story....
maybe?

[Ryke]

Bro, i cant teach u or dictate u wat to do . But if i am u in ur position there a few things i will consider before forgiving her or leave her.

1) Can u accept the fact that ur gf had been fucked by another guy ?

2) Can u accept her as ur wife to be ? And u are so sure that u can forget abt the fuck issue?

3) How sure are u that ur gf will not do it again ? The next time she tell you is i dun love u anymore?

4) If u wan to find a gf probably u shld forgive her but wife i will ask u to leave her.


There are a few things u can do to make yourself feel better

1) Tell and expose the truth to the fucker family

2) Fuck his wife if u can

3) If ur gf can fuck around without even sparing a thought to ur feelings , u can also fuck around.



I feel that once a girl had cheated you by fucking someone else to me it means she dun love u anymore not love u lesser . So I know it is hard and very painful to leave her but if u dun leave her u might get hurt more painful than this time. Good luck to u and hope ur problem be solved.

[Wuming52]

sometimes really dunno how to describe the feelin
ownself kenna cheated already feelin shit
somemore ur love's 1 lover cheat on her tat feelin really confuse
should u be angry she cheated on u more or should u be angry her lover cheat on ur gf more...
the feelin not up or down...
lik this i really dunno how to face her...

[naturegreen]

Originally Posted by Ryke

I feel that once a girl had cheated you by fucking someone else to me it means she dun love u anymore not love u lesser.

Yeah agree with this statement.
For guys, we like to bonk but we bonk without feelings. To men, we are sexual creatures.
For girls, most of them need to have the feeling than will allow the guys to bonk them unless they got high sex drive and you cannot satisfy her. But from your experience, I feel she has fallen in love with that guy. But since now she knows that the other guy has cheated on her, she is backing her way back to you for your forgiveness.

[Wuming52]

theres a 1st time for this
sure hav 2nd time

[andthenhor]

Originally Posted by RedSotong

Guys and girls,

2 weeks ago, I found out she cheating behind me.
And this 2 weeks, i am suffering a lot.

They have sex together, since Jan 2010, 9 months. the amount is of times they have sex, my girlfriend say she didn't count them. Then I ask more than 3 times ? she didn't answer me.


I am lost.

bro, the sea is huge, if u got a rotten fish, let go, there's always a better one out there. no need worry cannot find.
there is always a higher mountain then the one you currently have. sure can find better one.
find liao, marry, build a family, your cheating gf will then realise her wrong and regret.

for the guy, if only you can hire killer in sg... haha....
if not, go fuck his wife la...... i teach u how.... haha....

[RedSotong]

Wuming bro,

yes, that's how I am feeling.

If the guy didn't appears, maybe we are rock and roll into our 5th year and i planning to ROM 2010 or 2011.

Because of the guy appearance, my girlfriend believes his love message SMS and by all his loving touch to his words, my girlfriend got lesser feelings for me.

that fucker con my girlfriend he is not married and now after I found out, he didn't even message her sorry for all his action.

he is 100% toying my girlfriend and now he cause our relationship to have a crash landing.

I only knows he stays in Wdls 55X something, 6 floors.

If wlds have 550 till 559, it's 10 blocks and 6 floors x 10 units = 600 units.
I go comb that area, I will get him i believe, and I just comb the car park for his ride.

I am really lost, if i really beat him and crash his nuts, what do i benefit from it ?