Relationship problem

[RedSotong]

Originally Posted by Bangster

it'll be good for her too, or else she has to bear with the guilt if she continues to be with you

do you think she will suffer lesser if we broke up ?

i really love her a lot, i can do so much for her, i really cannot let her go.

am i scare of losing her because i don't want to waste the 5 years of time ?
i did consider about this, then i see my friends, 35 years old, divorce with kids, is time really an issue ?

I love her so much, i didn't sleep more than 3 hours daily since last week and been working whole 7 days week for the past this 2 week.

my head is cracking with my brain. I cannot eat, drink, sleep or work properly.
I afraid to lose her.

[Ryke]

If u hit him or crush his balls wat u gain is free lodging and meals cater in Changi Prision . Why u wan to ruin ur future for tat fucker and the gf who cheated on u ? If i were u i will make myself busy . take some lessons , work till i am tired and know more friends . If she cheats on you means tat she is not the one. Your right one maybe the next girl u be seeing .

[cheeky-cheeky]

Originally Posted by RedSotong

no bro cheeky, what i meant was getting the bastard aside of my relationship and not to have any other mess... i know violent cannot solve this problem. but if there is really a chance to get him suffer the rest of his life, I will try not to miss it.

btw, may i know how old are you? i hope we ain't too big of the gap over serious relationship and bgr.

Wah bro ask me to reveal my age publicly... Me shy lah haha... but for your benefit of doubt, I'm 34 and what happen was only 2 years ago...

now everyone know my age

[Bangster]

Originally Posted by RedSotong

do you think she will suffer lesser if we broke up ?

i really love her a lot, i can do so much for her, i really cannot let her go.

am i scare of losing her because i don't want to waste the 5 years of time ?
i did consider about this, then i see my friends, 35 years old, divorce with kids, is time really an issue ?

I love her so much, i didn't sleep more than 3 hours daily since last week and been working whole 7 days week for the past this 2 week.

my head is cracking with my brain. I cannot eat, drink, sleep or work properly.
I afraid to lose her.

I donno whether she'll suffer lesser or not if you break up with her. But I think this is the best option in this case because there is no point going on what; what's the point of sweeping everything under the carpet after you guys get back together and pretend you 2 can go on loving each other?

If you think that you do not want to waste that 5 years of your life with her, and choose to go on, you will be suffering the bad memories, the jealousy, the anger for the rest of your life, unless you are so confident you can forgive and forget. Can you? Save the trouble and heartache lah, look ahead for greener pastures. Why bother about being 35? Rushing into a marriage and suffer for the rest of your life, is it worthed it?

I have friends who were together with the ex-gf for almost ten years, then shit happened and they broke up. But one or both parties have moved on with another person and realised they are happier now. Some have even gotten married with the person.

拿得起，放得下
你做到吗？

[RedSotong]

Originally Posted by cheeky-cheeky

actually i should have asked you, at what age did that incident happen, so your age is protected. you can still edit your message, no one quoted you yet.

[RedSotong]

Originally Posted by Bangster

拿得起，放得下
你做到吗？

我想尝尝一下, 看做到吗. 因为我真的爱她

can true love beats all obstacles ?
I am confuse, and i can't tell my friends, they ain't true friends and they just gossip over it.

I really thanks everyone for replying, but why my girlfriend can do such things to me. I am really in pain.

Singapore nowaday keeps raining, I hope that bastard get struck by lighting and please don't die on the spot. Savage him with some perm damage

[Wuming52]

up to u bro
juz try loh..
if tat bad memories keep bother u
u shloud noe wat to do le

[Bangster]

Originally Posted by RedSotong

我想尝尝一下, 看做到吗. 因为我真的爱她

can true love beats all obstacles ?
I am confuse, and i can't tell my friends, they ain't true friends and they just gossip over it.

I really thanks everyone for replying, but why my girlfriend can do such things to me. I am really in pain.

Singapore nowaday keeps raining, I hope that bastard get struck by lighting and please don't die on the spot. Savage him with some perm damage

No need to wish pain upon others lah. Free your mind of all the hurt.

You need to 看开一点, you will 过得更轻松，更好，更开心

Why ask for more pain by 尝尝 a bit? Seriously, why? You are only doing it because you feel very sayang to give it up after 5 years. Please lah, to put it impolitely these 5 years balu you 珍惜， people (she lah) treat you like gong-kia. Nabeh ler buay tulan meh? 爱？爱 ki lan lah.

[Bangster]

Sua lah.

Very late liao, better go grab some sleep.

Without sleep, tomorrow even worse for you.

Whatever happens, be it die mother die father die family, also must sleep. Dont sleep, problem also won't go away. Sleep first. Wake up liao, have a hearty breakfast then go tackle the problem. More energy, more 精神.

[cheeky-cheeky]

Originally Posted by RedSotong

actually i should have asked you, at what age did that incident happen, so your age is protected. you can still edit your message, no one quoted you yet.

Never mind lah age only, nothing to hide ;p

Originally Posted by Bangster

Sua lah.

Very late liao, better go grab some sleep.

Without sleep, tomorrow even worse for you.

Whatever happens, be it die mother die father die family, also must sleep. Dont sleep, problem also won't go away. Sleep first. Wake up liao, have a hearty breakfast then go tackle the problem. More energy, more 精神.

What bro Bangster say is true, get some rest and then got more energy to tackle problem...

[RedSotong]

Originally Posted by Bangster

You need to 看开一点, you will 过得更轻松，更好，更开心.

that day i totally cannot take it, i want to end the relationship.
I say i cannot accept she open leg with another guy, i say it without considering her feelings,
all my words are piercing into my heart and her heart.....
after that, I am so pain inside my heart, I look at my phone every 5mins see if
she SMS me or give me any message at all. I don't know what is she doing and I am so lose.


Then she finally SMS me, asking me for a chance, I was so pain inside.

Can you understand ?
I truly loves her, she want 1 soft toy, i give her a lorry of soft toy.
She wants anything, i try my best to give her the best.

Now she wants a chance, I will also give it to her.

am I stupid ? or blinded ?

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by RedSotong

2 weeks ago, I found out she cheating behind me.

What a mess.

Time to get a new girlfriend and start afresh. That girl of yours is worse than garbage.

[Bangster]

Yes you are a　情痴

But you say that day you cannot take it, want to end the relationship. This shows you are very normal what.

Sigh....love is blind. Love makes people do stupid things. And love 害死很多人

Up to you lah, nobody can talk much sense to a 情痴.

Good luck and go sleep lah brother.

Dont brood over it too much.

[dc_31]

We know its difficult for you to go through, but after afew more times, u will be season already. as for looking for the guy, wat for? your gf sleep with him, u go and bash him. no logic at all unless u say he rape her, then different story. if u really luv her, then give her a chance. one more time, let her go. carry on with ur normal life. dun affect your work. by not eating and sleeping, no one will pity you. moreover u are on the upperhand. its whether you want to accept her or not. but trust me, if one day she meets someone better, she will still leave u. so u decide. hope my reply is not too blunt.

[RedSotong]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

..That girl of yours is worse than garbage.

Yes it's a mess.
I too agree i need to start afresh, but I cannot unload this relationship off my chest, i am not sure why. I give her 100% of my love, but she only give me back this shit hole. can I give this relationship another start ?

Do some people in life and relationship deserve a second chance ?

What the...
boss, Options will be much appreciate, not the statement.
the latter is big disappointment, esp it's coming str8 from you.

Originally Posted by dc_31

..as for looking for the guy, wat for? your gf sleep with him, u go and bash him. no logic at all unless u say he rape her, then different story.

he lied about his marriage, he told my gf he want to break up with his gf but his gf doesn't allow him, which is actually HIS WIFE. His wife actually wanted to divorce with him in March 2010 because of other reason. This is what makes my blood boiling. If he is true to her, then i admit I lose.

For now, I only know from his wife, they are 100% going to divorce over this.
I know it takes two to tango, but he set it up for my gf.
I am a fair person, I want to listen to both side of the story before deciding who is the problematic person. But for now, I doesn't know what does my gf gain if she still lie to me.

i am not working for others, i am self employ. So my work wasn't much affected, I put work and personal problems clearly aside. I still talk nicely to my clients. My friends I just push them away for the time being, I know they can't help me much esp over this problem I having. I cannot tell everyone my GIRLFRIEND IS HAVING SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN, it will be a very remarkable scene in the rest of life if my girlfriend really changes and we manage to put the relationship back into the track.....