Does guys really do mind gf/wife's past?

[AsiaBet]

Mind or don't mind, really depends on individual. Each has their own thinking. Just my view.

[sean69]

Originally Posted by hazel

Curious....

Do guys really mind if they found out their partner is doing FL in the past?

& if quarrel...

Will guys rank out abt this matters?

Hazel,

It really depends on the individual....

1. Some accepts that what is in the past is over... they can accept you for who you are and has a big heart even though in the future your background may be exposed by his friends or family...

2. Some accepts that what is in the past is over.. however, they have a face issue and cannot take it if your background is exposed... this will be a ticking timebomb, best to go separate ways..

3. Some totally cannot accept your past, they will initiate breakup without a big fuss or ranting...

4. Some totally cannot accept your past, will make a big fuss, call you names all the more to justify their actions to dump you


going by the above, the chances of finding a man who accepts you despite your past is pretty slim ... sometimes, ignorance is best

nonetheless, wish you all the best ..

[ssholic3141]

In the end, it boils down to how you feel about your partner. For me, as long as my partner is truthful, I see no reason to reject a person based on past actions. What's important is the present.

That said, we can never be sure of what our emotions might result in. We might be so deep in love that anything is forgivable, or be so narrow minded that nothing is forgivable.

We are not angels ourselves, so i guess it's best to accept it and move on. If your partner cannot accept your past, then maybe it's wise to rethink your relationship.

Hope I helped, gd luck.

[alan0338]

Originally Posted by hazel

Curious....Do guys really mind if they found out their partner is doing FL in the past?

Originally Posted by hazel

If the scenario is the gal told tat guy way b4 they got into r/s.. wad r guys thinking?

pointless to know wat the guy is thinking la... just another lanjiao lang ... just ignore and wait for the next one ..

[Coffeecans]

I wouldn't mind the past as I love you for what you are and not what you were.

Hope this helps

[MP5F]

Originally Posted by hazel

Curious....

Do guys really mind if they found out their partner is doing FL in the past?

& if quarrel...

Will guys rank out abt this matters?

there's no right or wrong. basically it's depends on the guy mindset, if he's open minded enough, he shouldn't mind about her past, rather he will think about the future with her. The past is something that can't be change.

Originally Posted by hazel

partly outta curiosity .. another reason is b'cos 1 of my ex ..suddenly txt me.. (im FL'in only b4 n after our break up, he know that) ..
so he rank out and scold me, saying tat, hope 1 day i found my new love can accept wad im in e past.

so.. Qs is.. do every guys lk to rank out this kinda stuff if their partner r once a FL?

if your ex can't accept your past, it's better to let him go, no point being together and ended up getting hurt emotionally as he might use your past to hurt u badly when u quarrel with him in the future.

i think maybe your ex still feels something for u, just that he can't accept your past. it's best for u to move on, dun think about him anymore. take care n good luck.

[hazel]

Thx for all the suggestion

Another Qs.. If a guy can accept his gf's past, will there b any hidden motive behind it..?
No offence

[sean69]

Originally Posted by hazel

Thx for all the suggestion

Another Qs.. If a guy can accept his gf's past, will there b any hidden motive behind it..?
No offence

2 possibilities:


1. he really with all his heart accepts and dun mind his gf's past..

2. he just want to bonk her and then use her past as an excuse to dump her..


being a cynical dirty old man.. i'm leaning towards scenario 2..

[hazel]

Originally Posted by sean69

2 possibilities:


1. he really with all his heart accepts and dun mind his gf's past..

2. he just want to bonk her and then use her past as an excuse to dump her..


being a cynical dirty old man.. i'm leaning towards scenario 2..

WAHH~ its v hurtful to the gal if the gal really love u wor... BAD

[ironman73]

Originally Posted by hazel

Thx for all the suggestion

Another Qs.. If a guy can accept his gf's past, will there b any hidden motive behind it..?
No offence

My personal view on this:
1) I have a friend who is still happily married to his wife for more then 15 years now who bear him 2 daughters. She is previously a A gogo lady in patpong.

2) Another friend who married his GF after graduation from NUS, 1st loved. Now divorced because his wife commented adultry outside.

How much it matters to your potential boyfriend really depends on how openly he accepted this kind of issue. Sub-consciously, is very hard for man to overcome these kind issue. He must have really loved you alot and with a heart of a lion.

3) Hidden motive, not sure what kind of hidden motive you are wary of? Money? Fuck and forget?

my 2 cents.....

[hazel]

Originally Posted by ironman73

3) Hidden motive, not sure what kind of hidden motive you are wary of? Money? Fuck and forget?

my 2 cents.....

money concern ba...hmm...

[fatlovesex]

Originally Posted by hazel

money concern ba...hmm...

If the man's motive is money, then you should be the one who should dump him FIRST and not let him have a chance to cheat your money and later accused you of your past and use it as an excuse to dump you.

If you have money, you can always find many other new man who do not know your past.

[hamsapkwai]

what if a man tells you he had been bonking FL all the while till he met you?

[hotstuffm8]

Originally Posted by hazel

Curious....

Do guys really mind if they found out their partner is doing FL in the past?

& if quarrel...

Will guys rank out abt this matters?

I think SG guys are slowly changing traditional mindsets - so many stories here about bros who have settled down with ex-FLs. Its simply a matter of being able to let the past go.

Besides, who are we to complain? Check out our posts - full of FRs, steamy FB stories with different partners etc etc. If folks have misgivings about their partner's FL past, they should look into the mirror first - are they themselves cheongsters in the past? Abit buay steady to 嫌弃 your partner's past if you are a big time cheongster right?

Bro if you have decided to be with her, you have to be able to 放得下 your partner's FL past, this is part of who she is. Her history is what made her the person she is today, and this is the person you fell in love with. How can you, in good conscience, cherry-pick on her attributes and begrudge her past if you have chosen to accept her previously?

I wish you all the best bro - just hope you can break up with her gently if you cannot accept her past. FLs have feelings too

Good luck!

[wally888]

Originally Posted by hazel

If the scenario is the gal told tat guy way b4 they got into r/s.. wad r guys thinking?

Then the guy will post his sad story in SBF and Boss SAM will reprimand the guy