Does guys really do mind gf/wife's past?

[hazel]

Bro hotstuffm8 & wally888

This is sis here.. dun mis-understand

[hazel]

Originally Posted by hamsapkwai

what if a man tells you he had been bonking FL all the while till he met you?

hmmm....wad do u mean?

[LoveAffair]

Hi Hazel..

With all respects, I believed it is wise to let him know in order to be fair for him. And that is - letting him make a decision. If he can't accept, moved on and tell yourself u did ur best. At least u do not have to carry the guilt for the rest of your life.

If he is open enough, in time to come he will cherish and respect u as his gf more than ever. I read about one samster comment on your post. Saying don't let him know and guys can't accept and will never accept a FL gf etc etc. It's quite true to a certain extent.

However I can assure u that some guys may cherish u more for being truthful to him from the start. Not all guys are the same and will react the same. Ultimately, the decision is still urs urself to make. Grab full whole of this opportunity and be honest is what I would opt for.

Honesty is always the key to form a basic respectful relationship. All the best.

[hotstuffm8]

Originally Posted by hazel

Bro hotstuffm8 & wally888

This is sis here.. dun mis-understand

Ehhh paiseh arh - late when I posted and didn't check properly, just read first post only. But I guess the meaning remains the same, hope my few humble words are helpful to you.

Originally Posted by LoveAffair

Hi Hazel..

With all respects, I believed it is wise to let him know in order to be fair for him. And that is - letting him make a decision. If he can't accept, moved on and tell yourself u did ur best. At least u do not have to carry the guilt for the rest of your life.

If he is open enough, in time to come he will cherish and respect u as his gf more than ever. I read about one samster comment on your post. Saying don't let him know and guys can't accept and will never accept a FL gf etc etc. It's quite true to a certain extent.

However I can assure u that some guys may cherish u more for being truthful to him from the start. Not all guys are the same and will react the same. Ultimately, the decision is still urs urself to make. Grab full whole of this opportunity and be honest is what I would opt for.

Honesty is always the key to form a basic respectful relationship. All the best.

If I remember correctly, LoveAffair bro here is speaking from the other end of the equation. If I were you Hazel sis, I will consider his words with more weight.

LA bro how are you? Have you worked things out yet? Hope everything is going well for you at the moment - 加油!

[hamsapkwai]

Originally Posted by hazel

hmmm....wad do u mean?

It`s just role reversal. you been doing FL and bonking around and he had been bonking around similarly. You ok with that past as well?

[Greatking]

if her past happens while with you... then you better forget it... a leopard never change its spot... better be safe than sorry

[hornie]

I am all for moving forward with life but I would not be able to accept. What if your relative fucked her before and shooting his load in his mouth for $50?

[hazel]

Originally Posted by hamsapkwai

It`s just role reversal. you been doing FL and bonking around and he had been bonking around similarly. You ok with that past as well?

i can accept.. but no confident in the r/s.. so wads the used being togg?

[hazel]

Originally Posted by hornie

I am all for moving forward with life but I would not be able to accept. What if your relative fucked her before and shooting his load in his mouth for $50?

Hmmm... is this being 大男人 leh?
No offence

[hazel]

Originally Posted by LoveAffair

Hi Hazel..

With all respects, I believed it is wise to let him know in order to be fair for him. And that is - letting him make a decision. If he can't accept, moved on and tell yourself u did ur best. At least u do not have to carry the guilt for the rest of your life.

If he is open enough, in time to come he will cherish and respect u as his gf more than ever. I read about one samster comment on your post. Saying don't let him know and guys can't accept and will never accept a FL gf etc etc. It's quite true to a certain extent.

However I can assure u that some guys may cherish u more for being truthful to him from the start. Not all guys are the same and will react the same. Ultimately, the decision is still urs urself to make. Grab full whole of this opportunity and be honest is what I would opt for.

Honesty is always the key to form a basic respectful relationship. All the best.

Hmmm... till a certain point in life .. quarrel.. will guy rank out abt his gf past (FL'ing) n if yes, why is this guy at 1st still say he can accept his gf past etc etc etc.. ?

[highlysex]

Originally Posted by cheryl

they al say they dun mind before they fucked you
after they fucked you they mind

Yup, sad but mostly true when quarrel n heated up everything in the past will be rack up, so sis make the guy that you love is really really open Minded

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by wally888

Then the guy will post his sad story in SBF and Boss SAM will reprimand the guy

LoL

But somehow, I think "people" tend to be more forgiving towards local girls who were once a whore, versus say a Thai or PRC whore. i.e. if we marry a thai/prc who had such a past, we'll be nuts. If a sg girl have similar past, somehow it's not as nuts to marry her Right?

Anyway to TS, from experiences (ahem), this very question should be directed to yourself; do you mind your own past and feel inferior? Chances are that during quarrels or maybe even a slip of tongue, the guy will mention somethine about your past, then you'll get mad and blame him for "looking down" on you, etc. when in fact those words are not from his heart (else he wouldn't even be with you from the start) and merely spoken to anger you.

Guys who can accept your past, would have made up the mind from start. So don't worry so much in future even if he bring out the past to hurt you during the quarrels.

[hazel]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

LoL

.. Anyway to TS, from experiences (ahem), this very question should be directed to yourself; do you mind your own past and feel inferior? Chances are that during quarrels or maybe even a slip of tongue, the guy will mention somethine about your past, then you'll get mad and blame him for "looking down" on you, etc. when in fact those words are not from his heart (else he wouldn't even be with you from the start) and merely spoken to anger you.

Guys who can accept your past, would have made up the mind from start. So don't worry so much in future even if he bring out the past to hurt you during the quarrels.

hmmm... but i tink every1 shld be sensitive enff that, ranking up the past (esp. FL'ing stuff) might hurt the r/s

[qwertyuiop]

Originally Posted by hazel

hmmm... but i tink every1 shld be sensitive enff that, ranking up the past (esp. FL'ing stuff) might hurt the r/s

True enough that raking up the past WILL hurt the r/s but yet again, if a person has committed the mistake, must be ready to receive hurtful comments. It may be accidentally or unintentional during quarrels as couple will definiltey hurl hurtful comments.

Who will really go think about what to say during quarrel/arguments? Saying this, I'm not asking u to accept a guy who keeps raking up the past everytime during disagreements. A couple really need to sit down and discuss about this matter and not rake up the past as to trigger sensitive buttons of each other.

Yes, it is true the mistake has been committed but as long as ONE is willing to change sincerely, they should be given a 2nd chance again. The past is the past, move on for the present and future instead is what couples should look upon.

And also, open your eyes and heart big enough to see what's going on, the person who is together with you should accept u for everything u are including your past and should learn to love and embrace you for who you are now. Honestly speaking, who doesn't have a bad/sad past? It's this past experiences that makes the better of us now eh? Hope my 0.02 cents is useful, sorry if can't be of much help.

[ronin_dark]

Agree with Bro qwertyuiop ( upz you later when i have the power). Well said.

Life is too short...just enjoy while we still can