really need advice from men

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by hurts

the poll show only 44 voters and who knows probably half of them are your clone voting, or mostly are your swinger kakies. not a very good survey poll done real survey poll indicate name and include personal particular try doing this survey in a non sexual forum or even in the real world. the result is sure at least 75% against 25%.

further more, having a detailed look at that thread, most people commented NO. THOSE who voted yes dare not post anything. your clones?

hahaha so clever and bo liao to vote for myself hor.

[Sahin]

Originally Posted by sadbaby

I am a new user and this is my first post, so I hope I am posting in the right place.

I know its normal, but can I just ask, is it a sign of him cheating on me one day with someone else? any advice will be much appreciated

Where has your trust gone in this relationship ?

[hurts]

Originally Posted by jasdude

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lol using clone to talk to yourself. you not shameful i also feel shameful for you lo jasdude no supporter?

[sane]

Originally Posted by sadbaby

I am a new user and this is my first post, so I hope I am posting in the right place.
However, I realised my bf has photos of my busty frens and colleagues saved in his computer and he's also a member of this forum who used to be involved in swinging with his ex gf.

I know its normal, but can I just ask, is it a sign of him cheating on me one day with someone else? any advice will be much appreciated

Originally Posted by jasdude

I agree with you bro. All men do have past, give your man a chance to prove himself. BUT TS if you are uncomfortable of his past, talk to him about it. Look at his replies and reevaluate the situation. However the past is the past, what is happening now and the future is more important.

TS, I hope that u accept him while fully aware of his past. What happened in the past mould us into what we are today. People who experienced failed r/s will work harder to improve on the next r/s. Time will tell everything.

Accept n embrace it. The most impt is he's honest n willing to come clean with u.

I wrote this before n I shall state here again, talk to him and let him know your concerns. Trust and communication will solve any doubts.

If u do not trust him, I see no point in continue the r/s. I will choose to leave if I do not trust him.

talk to him.

[gizbabe]

Originally Posted by jasdude

Come la I let the bangala try you la.

Me! Me! Me! I volunteer.... LOLOL....

Chill people..... Sadbaby is asking for advice not cat fights...

Anyway, from a woman point of view, I strongly believe in instinct... Take a moment and think about it, what does your instinct tells you...

If the love is mutual and strong enough, you'll find a way to make it work somehow.

May you find true love and happiness my dear! All the best!

[<<totally>>]

Originally Posted by hurts

What is love and can fuck anyone that he or she doesn't love or have feelings with.
Falling in love with someone married is 大罪

Come on leh, friendly exchange of ideas doesn't required so must firepower. I smell something burning and thought my house caught fire. Relaxed a bit.

Auntie Hurts, 一日不见如隔三秋。Now youngsters more opened. They wished to try anything and everything before they become LKK. The world is always changing so social values will change. When we are young, I believed there were times that you might be defiant of some of the traditional rules in our days. Now is just an exchange of position, we have to acknowledge that we are getting old. Lolz.

I am not asking you to change your thinking, just letting you know that we cannot labelled what we cannot accepted as wrong. You get what I wished to say?

Originally Posted by jasdude

To be crude, I can fuck many and still there is no wrong cos I don't need to account to a GF or WIFE. Swinging is wrong?

Yandao Kia JD, from what I have learned in life, as a guy sometimes to lose is a win instead. I do see your point as your status does not require any accounting to be taken. 我行，我素，乐逍遥。

However if we are taking chinese moral cultures as a guideline and have you graded against it. What do you think you will fared? With the assumption that you are a chinese. It is truth that people are more opened in thinking, however consideration need to cater to some who are still not ready or cannot be ready.

So I think everyone did have a share of what he/she has in mind. Let's see what others have to offer. Next time got this type of debate, kindly send a pm to me inbox. I also want to share share my ideas to everyone. Time is running out for Monday is coming fast. Let's enjoy whatever has left on Sunday. Rest well everyone.

Cheers
<<Totally>>

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by <<totally>>

Yandao Kia JD, from what I have learned in life, as a guy sometimes to lose is a win instead. I do see your point as your status does not require any accounting to be taken. 我行，我素，乐逍遥。

However if we are taking chinese moral cultures as a guideline and have you graded against it. What do you think you will fared? With the assumption that you are a chinese. It is truth that people are more opened in thinking, however consideration need to cater to some who are still not ready or cannot be ready.

So I think everyone did have a share of what he/she has in mind. Let's see what others have to offer. Next time got this type of debate, kindly send a pm to me inbox. I also want to share share my ideas to everyone. Time is running out for Monday is coming fast. Let's enjoy whatever has left on Sunday. Rest well everyone.

Cheers
<<Totally>>

Sure! I always welcome discussions especially with those that have open minds to discuss rather than pinpoint at issues with personal bad experience, biasness and prejudice.

Cheers.

[<<totally>>]

YDK Bro jasdude, that's very kind of you. I am always ready to discuss anything under the 'sun' and the 'moon'. Thanks.

Here are some thoughts of mine for a great discussion. I do believed that past experiences in life does affected individual in a way or another. It is normally the thought of the pain rather than the pain itself that does a greater damage. It has the ability to affect one's thinking and reactions.

Hence if one find him/herself unable to think level headed, I believed there is a need to cool down. Because in a fit of anger, one might ended up selecting words of a stronger tone/meaning and hence the spiral effect.

When I go through some of my own past comments, I myself couldn't understand why I wrote some comments in that manner. In the end, I realized that those comments were made during those days when I happened to go short circuited. Lolz.

The common purpose of coming into this forum is to seek and learned from brothers and sisters who are willingly to share. In the course of learning, it is important to have a correct type of mindset in oneself to ensure learning will be at it maximum efficiency.

First of all, the course of learning required one's to open his heart and mind. One needs to flush out what he has in his mind so that any new information can be easily absorbed during the exchange. If I block and deny any information, what will be there for me to learn?

In the events of giving opinions, one should be concerned about the reason behind for the stand rather than fighting over correct or wrong. It is because what one cannot accepted do not mean the other party is wrong.

The way one expressed himself do affect the responses he will received. In my opinion, the ideal way is to be polite and humble.

A spark in awhile does enhanced forum experiences. However anything in excessive is never too good for health. So when it is time to stop, we need to stop.

Always be kind and forgiving, for what goes around come around.

Courtesy begins with me.

[sadbaby]

Thanks all for the replies, really.. Sincerely appreciate it.

I know having their photos are not normal, but they are actually photos of them in normal situations, i.e. Facebook photos, group photos self shots etc nth sexual in content, which I believe he save from facebook. Of cos they normally show cleavage.

As for swinging, I only know he sent photos to some user here but according to the email it stopped at that, nth bout the actual meet up n swinging session taking place.

[sadbaby]

I've talked to him bout it, he felt very embarrassed and he apologized, that he won't do it again. Fact is, the last PM I see from sbf on his account was before he and I got tgt.

In the end... I chose to give him the enefit of the doubt, cos I know I see a future with him and those things were probably for guilty pleasure sake.

I asked here just to have second opinion, and I also
Know cheating is not smthng that is entirely avoidable or impossible in any r/s, even of its with the most decent guy. I choose to believe in his strong family
Values and upbringing, cos apart from those few hints of betrayal, he's a great guy an my best friend...

[sadbaby]

Let's just say every guy has their secret fantasies and it's fine as long as they remain as fantasies and not reality. His mind is free to roam but it's what a man is that's gonna make him continue to let it stay that way.

Hope I don't get slammed for being overly trusting and optimistic... Hahaa

Thanks all, again. ESP to those who wish me true love and happiness, I hope you'll have it too

[<<totally>>]

Originally Posted by sadbaby

Let's just say every guy has their secret fantasies and it's fine as long as they remain as fantasies and not reality. His mind is free to roam but it's what a man is that's gonna make him continue to let it stay that way.

Hope I don't get slammed for being overly trusting and optimistic...Haha

Sis, I myself have to admit I do have my own fantasies. If I do have a chance to complete my fantasies, as long within my means even with some risks involved I will do it.

Here's something for you to think about.
Fantansy
The mind is the womb of a fantasy.
A step closer to fantasy is a dream,
another step closer to a dream is an idea,
another step closer to an idea is a thought,
another step closer to a thought is a plan,
another step closer to a plan is an action.
An action is a reality.

I hope your he is not as complex as me. Best of luck!

[Austere]

Originally Posted by sadbaby

I am a new user and this is my first post, so I hope I am posting in the right place.

I am a young girl who always believe that to be a good gf and wife, one needs to please her husband and bf in bed. And I am quite wild and willing to experiment in bed, initiates sex and is very enthusiastic and fun in bed and gives bj that is out of this world (according to my bf)

However, I realised my bf has photos of my busty frens and colleagues saved in his computer and he's also a member of this forum who used to be involved in swinging with his ex gf.

I know its normal, but can I just ask, is it a sign of him cheating on me one day with someone else? any advice will be much appreciated

How old are you?
How long have you all been?

Firstly, If you are early 20s, You can choose to find a better man.
If you all been together for only months, You better run.
If been together for years, then you should talk to him, Say you will close one eye, but you want to understand him.

If he pour some details out, and you buai tahan, You can choose to find another man.

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by <<totally>>

YDK Bro jasdude, that's very kind of you. I am always ready to discuss anything under the 'sun' and the 'moon'. Thanks.

The way one expressed himself do affect the responses he will received. In my opinion, the ideal way is to be polite and humble.

Always be kind and forgiving, for what goes around come around.

Courtesy begins with me.

Agree with you bro. But first thing first, please don't call me YDK. I am just a normal looking dude. Just a dude, Jasdude.

However people with agendas will not listen to such concepts of being reasonable or fair or have excuses of being influenced by mood or experiences.

I thank you again for your comments. Maybe join me for a drink? I will PM you.

[sane]

Originally Posted by jasdude

Agree with you bro. But first thing first, please don't call me YDK. I am just a normal looking dude. Just a dude, Jasdude.

However people with agendas will not listen to such concepts of being reasonable or fair or have excuses of being influenced by mood or experiences.

I thank you again for your comments. Maybe join me for a drink? I will PM you.

Dear, u really YDK mah..y not juz accept the fact? drinks ar..anytime, i will on u