Ex girlfriend is asking for alimony.

[primechoice]

Originally Posted by sean69

actually.. not a lot of pple is on CGH's side... but thanks to him, you should know that no one can force you to take a DNA/paternity test..

since she is a divorcee, she is getting alimony and child support from her ex-husband.. she is milking you for additional money... if her ex-husband knows that one of the kids is not his, he will not pay child support for that kid... who knows, he may even make a big fuss and refuse to pay alimony cos she committed adultery while they were still married..

Can he do that?
Is she really milking me? Gosh, all the mixed feelings.

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by primechoice

the line that scares me is, "before she applies to court for an order for you to provide a reasonable monthly maintenance for....."

This is another talk cock, scare people line. She can always apply but it doesn't mean she will get it. If her case is strong, the letter won't be on a without prejudice basis. There is no connection between you and the child. No DNA tests, no legal documents. All based on the words of a woman who has consistently lie to you. Don't even think of helping her. Sometimes you need to be cruel to others to be kind to yourself. If you pay, she will surely record it down and use it in future to get more out of you.

Why not try HOH law? Seen their advertisement on the TV, seems like they specialise in such small cases.

As for CGH, I think he got scammed. Lady came down, make big hoo-haa and then refuse to do DNA test. I think she is trying to fleece money out of him because he is a public figure in Singapore. If she really got a case, why will she not want to do a DNA test? Last reported, she is uncontactable after she returned to Shanghai right? She must have thought CGH would have given her money without going through the DNA test. When CGH says he will do DNA test, she probably knows her game of lies will be exposed soon. Not that I pity CGH. Glad it happened to him.

[primechoice]

bro brainstorm,
what if she insisted on paternal test?
in your last post, it was the lady who didnt wanna do the test but in my case, what if she wants me to do it? do i have to do it?

if on the worst case scenario, the boy is mine, what do i do?
they want me to start paying on 1st November and i just received the letter today.
HOH law firm yah? maybe i should give them a call. any other law firm to recommend my case?

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by primechoice

what if she insisted on paternal test?

they want me to start paying on 1st November and i just received the letter today.

No one can force you to do paternity test. So what if she insist? You have your rights. What bullshit is this? Today receive letter, tomorrow must pay. Sounds more and more like a con job. Even the blood sucking Singapore Govt gives you 14 days to pay your traffic fines.

Go get a lawyer and get proper advice. I've no other law firms in mind. Do keep us updated.

[primechoice]

I will constantly update this thread.
meanwhile, i guess i will ask around for a referral.

edit: Please if any others know more, feel free to update here too.
Thanks a bunch guys.

[yangguo]

Originally Posted by primechoice

bro brainstorm,
what if she insisted on paternal test?
in your last post, it was the lady who didnt wanna do the test but in my case, what if she wants me to do it? do i have to do it?

In case you did not read my earlier posting, allow me to repeat myself.

"Don't you wanna know whether you are the natural father of her 2nd child?"

Originally Posted by primechoice

if on the worst case scenario, the boy is mine, what do i do?

Look on the bright side of the life, you have become a father now.

I believe you will know instinctly what you should do as a father.

Originally Posted by primechoice

HOH law firm yah? maybe i should give them a call. any other law firm to recommend my case?

I am pretty sure you do not need a Queen's Counsel to represent you in the court, right?

[porscheclub]

TS, stop wasting our time here. Go get a DNA test asap & make sure nothing is tainted in the process.

There was a recent case where a woman had 3 BFs & got pregnant then decided the child belongs to two BFs. She gave birth & didn't marry either until a few years later while choosing for the better man who can provide & give her a better life. Yes, two sad fellows kept on favouring her & the child.

So, she took their samples for DNA test & married one. Some years later the husband realised that the child doesn't look like him & did a DNA. Alas, he is not the father. So, divorced.

The woman mixed up the DNA samples & chose the wrong man.

There are thousands of lawyers in Singapore & all letters sent out will be issued as "without prejudice" until found guilty Don't sweat about it, just get a lawyer to shoot a letter back then arrange for a date to do the test with witnesses if possible.

[porscheclub]

Oh, in the worst scenario that the kid is indeed yours then you'll have a headache. She is possibly not a good mother to your child, you'll have to understand his needs & have the right in his upbringing. Your lawyer will advice you on these.

Welcome to fatherhood!

[Happy555]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Oh, in the worst scenario that the kid is indeed yours then you'll have a headache. She is possibly not a good mother to your child, you'll have to understand his needs & have the right in his upbringing. Your lawyer will advice you on these.

Welcome to fatherhood!

Yeah, i was thinking tha if TS is the father n the ex, obviously 1 messed up bitch, cant look after the kid, TS would be suddenly be thrown into premature fatherhood man...

[wally888]

TS, i think u shd oso consider your wife's feeling. Does she knew of this situation? If yes, will she b providing support to u?

u shd oso find out your ex gf's objective. Why suddenly bring this issue up after so many years? Maybe u can just meet her for a heart to heart talk?

My humble 2 cents.

[see see only]

Originally Posted by wally888

TS, i think u shd oso consider your wife's feeling.

Go consult a lawyer ... she has a husband ... legally is easy to settle .... unless she divorce her husband or the other way round....

As mentioned by bro wally888 .... your present wife could be your most headache .. .... be truthful to her in a tactful way

[primechoice]

My wife knew about it.
anyway, my ex gf contacted me. she mentioned that she only wants money, she doesnt want him to even know i am the father (if it happens to be) she doesnt wanna lose her son.

[see see only]

Originally Posted by primechoice

My wife knew about it.
anyway, my ex gf contacted me. she mentioned that she only wants money, she doesnt want him to even know i am the father (if it happens to be) she doesnt wanna lose her son.

OMG ... without her husband knowing it ... ........... she just want extra income benefiting from this possible situation ... for her own use ... tat's wont go to the kid directly ....

What a greedy woman

[primechoice]

exactly thats why i am not keen to give her a single cent at all.

[joshblue]

Women's Charter section 69

Except where an agreement or order of court otherwise provides, it shall be the duty of a parent to maintain or contribute to the maintenance of his or her children, whether they are in his or her custody or the custody of any other person, and whether they are legitimate or illegitimate, either by providing them with such accommodation, clothing, food and education as may be reasonable having regard to his or her means and station in life or by paying the cost thereof.

It will fall on the proof of parentage. A paternity test need not be the only conclusive test. If the lady can prove that at the time of conception it was not possible for her to have carnal relations with her husband (husband overseas), and she had carnal relations with you, then you are in all likelihood the father. Then must pay.