Ex girlfriend is asking for alimony.

[husky_hush]

Originally Posted by joshblue

Women's Charter section 69

Except where an agreement or order of court otherwise provides, it shall be the duty of a parent to maintain or contribute to the maintenance of his or her children, whether they are in his or her custody or the custody of any other person, and whether they are legitimate or illegitimate, either by providing them with such accommodation, clothing, food and education as may be reasonable having regard to his or her means and station in life or by paying the cost thereof.

It will fall on the proof of parentage. A paternity test need not be the only conclusive test. If the lady can prove that at the time of conception it was not possible for her to have carnal relations with her husband (husband overseas), and she had carnal relations with you, then you are in all likelihood the father. Then must pay.

maybe ts can consider engage bro jb as lawyer .....

[Greatking]

Not mandate by law to do dna under civil lawsuit.

She cant do a test without ur consent.

She got a busy past.

Seek advise from law firm on e change ti win defamation case

[Intltuk]

Originally Posted by joshblue

Women's Charter section 69

Except where an agreement or order of court otherwise provides, it shall be the duty of a parent to maintain or contribute to the maintenance of his or her children, whether they are in his or her custody or the custody of any other person, and whether they are legitimate or illegitimate, either by providing them with such accommodation, clothing, food and education as may be reasonable having regard to his or her means and station in life or by paying the cost thereof.

It will fall on the proof of parentage. A paternity test need not be the only conclusive test. If the lady can prove that at the time of conception it was not possible for her to have carnal relations with her husband (husband overseas), and she had carnal relations with you, then you are in all likelihood the father. Then must pay.

I think u need to read the law in the right context. In this case, only a DNA can be proof. Imagine if u interpretation is true........a lot of men in S'pore are in trouble .


Anyway TS, since she has initiated this......ur recourse, as stated by some forumers here.........get a DNA test and lawyer...u need to settle this...one way or another.

[yunnamhaircare]

Also ask your lawyer whether you can get your ex-gf to pay for your lawyer bills and DNA test if she is finally found to be just trying to mess around. Remember to keep all your receipts from DNA test and law consultation.

[primechoice]

Well, I dropped her an email that I will be in touch with her with my lawyer.
I havent done so since I have been busy myself. I hear nothing from her and her lawyers too.
In any ways, is it possible for her to get child support from me and alimony from her ex husband?
She was married and divorced now.
She claimed no.1 is her ex husband. no.2 is mine and no.3 is her ex husband.

I am lost in her stories. it kinda differs every time.

Anyway, in Terrence's case, it seems like he lost the case.

[primechoice]

Originally Posted by yangguo

In case you did not read my earlier posting, allow me to repeat myself.

"Don't you wanna know whether you are the natural father of her 2nd child?"



Look on the bright side of the life, you have become a father now.

I believe you will know instinctly what you should do as a father.



I am pretty sure you do not need a Queen's Counsel to represent you in the court, right?

What a demoralizing friday....

to bro yangguo,

Having a child, of cos it is great but not a surprise party after so many years.....
This just clashes with all the plannings i have in my life too. Not everything is as easy as ABC and the kid doesnt even know me at all. Worst of all, i try to find the money to pay her, she doesnt allow me to exercise anything at all. I am not allowed to see him, recognise him, etc. now you think, is that fair?

[Phuture]

I think getting a legal opinion is the best way to sort this out. And doing it soon will put a stop to all the various scenarios playing in your mind. In all likelihood, the kid is not yours. But you want to be sure. If she's so cock sure the kid is yours, wont she be the one pushing for the test so that you'll have to pay up ASAP?

[primechoice]

Originally Posted by Phuture

I think getting a legal opinion is the best way to sort this out. And doing it soon will put a stop to all the various scenarios playing in your mind. In all likelihood, the kid is not yours. But you want to be sure. If she's so cock sure the kid is yours, wont she be the one pushing for the test so that you'll have to pay up ASAP?

yes,
she has been asking me to do test and she kept saying that so do u agree and will fully pay the test? over the sms.

[asdfghjkl]

so CGH has to pay for his PRC child?

[hotstuffm8]

I reckon the best thing to do is to go for the DNA test.

If the child is not yours, you can send the woman packing. If the child is yours, you should pay for child maintenance anyway. Its the moral thing to do.

If you refuse to go for the test, the woman might constantly hound you for payment. This would be a huge psychological burden for you and your current wife. Who wants to live a life where someone is after them all the time?

Besides, there will always be the nagging doubt that if the child is yours, you have done a shitty thing by ignoring the whole matter.

That said, at the end of the day, the choice is yours. We're just here to lend our opinions. Do whatever you need to do, just make sure that you can live with the consequences.

Take care bro.

[saintsrsaf]

Any place to recommend for a DNA test?

[newhere]

I don't get it. Isn't the ex-husband the legal father of this child? Isn't there a "father" in the child's Singapore birth cert i.e. the first husband?

If there is, he is liable for all child maintanence until a certain age, even if the child is not genetically his; without his knowledge. One cannot absolve one's liability as a parent in the eyes of the law, unless you died or gone MIA abroad. No such thing as "divorcing" your children.

As for the TS, I believe there cannot be 2 fathers in the eyes of the law. So you probably are worrying about nothing. Do check with your nearest friendly male family lawyer.

[camry108]

TS, my humble advice is for you to seek legal advice and stop talking to the woman at all.

My Co hired quite a few FW and sometimes I have to help my HR dept to handle some lawyer letters sent by FWs's to try to claim compensation for work injury (no choice coz the HR gal very teh ).

The pt is once they have engaged legal representation, you can ONLY deal with them via their lawyer, most of us will prefer to get our own and talk to them.

The most economical way is to just seek legal advice and prepare a set of questions to ask your lawyer and consult on the best recourse, remember this the more you ask the lawyer to do for you, the more u pay, so keep the lawyer's work to min, every lawyer will tell u, u can fight the case, but if really do that the cost if very high.

Also don't go to HOH lah (they help FW to claim), not really up to par

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

TS, stop wasting our time here. Go get a DNA test asap & make sure nothing is tainted in the process.

There was a recent case where a woman had 3 BFs & got pregnant then decided the child belongs to two BFs. She gave birth & didn't marry either until a few years later while choosing for the better man who can provide & give her a better life. Yes, two sad fellows kept on favouring her & the child.

So, she took their samples for DNA test & married one. Some years later the husband realised that the child doesn't look like him & did a DNA. Alas, he is not the father. So, divorced.

The woman mixed up the DNA samples & chose the wrong man.

There are thousands of lawyers in Singapore & all letters sent out will be issued as "without prejudice" until found guilty Don't sweat about it, just get
a lawyer to shoot a letter back then arrange for a date to do the test with witnesses if possible.

Interesting fact. Hang around with both until she's happy with her decision?
Wow.

[adonis]

Originally Posted by primechoice

...... I am lost in her stories. it kinda differs every time.
....

May b she isn't telling u the truth?