[maviskialim]

hi there!

i'm new to this forum, seeking some thoughts from all of you.

my brother found a girlfriend who is 7 years younger than him in August last year. his girlfriend connects with me as a close friend for more than 5 years. sadly, there was a lot of happening between all 3 of us including our common friends with her till out of control (can say no more friends and rather believe my brother more).

to cut the story, my brother had been using me as a cover-up to stir up troubles till extreme, causing our friendship to turn sour. i cannot take it anymore and turned to my other close friends for venting out my bitter events with her. they helped me to advise her to keep the line between the status of siblings, and girlfriend. in the end, they got rebuked by her for taking my side.

both my brother and his girlfriend started to accusing me for trying to break their relationship (that does not come across my thought) as they had been quarrelling over me several times till my brother finally got his wish to see all of us falling out apart (history repeated after the last event with his gay friend a year ago). his girlfriend claimed that both of them hardly quarrelled over themselves.

my brother himself told me off several time not to talk to his girlfriend the moment after they got together. he wanted her to be happy always, and did not bother my angry feeling of being used up by him. he even went crazy to rush down to see her, and threatened her not to break off their relationship due to their losing virginity, and scratched her hands till left little marks. he reminded her that i am the one who causing her not to be happy like that, but in fact, i did not do that from the beginning. She wanted to verify comments that he has been telling her with me only, and nothing else.

to make things worse, my brother went to my aunts and mum to deal with me, together with his girlfriend. they chose to believe him more than me, and started scolding me like that without listening to my side. i had been ignoring them for a while. so far, they do not keep in contact me.

as for now i really don't know whether i should go visit my mum, and aunts for CNY celebration in 1 week time. (usually my brother usually updates me every year, but this year different story after he got together with his girlfriend).

I have been pondering whether (1) I should make first movement to call my aunts and mum, (2) the claims that they hardly quarrel over each other since they had been together for 5-6 months this month, and managed to get a queue number from a recent HDB SBF launch. (3) my brother's real purpose of keeping his girlfriend out of the friends who are in common with me, and expecting me to stop asking for help from him when necessary. (4) their relationship can last without quarrels or arguments, and even after marriage in future (my brother plans marriage proposal in 4 months' time this year).