Typical story of a dumb girl

[Stupiost]

I got attracted to this man and we started to go out and then he told me he's married. I got emotionally involved (typical stupid girl). I wasn't out for the money, but like all other girls, indulge in the feel of being pampered. He's not stingy or what. He def don't make little money. I was stupid to not let him spend too much money and in the end I pampered him to not spend instead. He's getting free fu**. I'm starting to feel I'm worse than a mistress, worse than a prostitute. Even those two group of people get more benefits than I do. Since he's married I also deal with not being the first for anything. I feel emotionally shitty and sad all the time. Thoughts?

[alkz]

he was already not upfront and honest with you from the beginning.

Three options
1. leave him, take time to heal and be a happier person
2. continue to be in this relationship and suffer the turmoil which will affect u both mentally and physically
3. he leaves his wife and be with you but his family will always see u as 3rd party

[thomas]

At least u admit u r dumb. Its never to late to start all over again.
Start from today!!

[diputs1269]

Sis you realise that you cannot continue your underground relationship anymore should take this opportunity to break free. Be brave and choose what you want and live your own life happily.

[cocky1234]

sis.. leave your wechat here. many good guys will add you

[alkz]

if she leave her wechat, she will have more headache...haha

[Stupiost]

The issue is that I really like him. And I'm willing to continue this. I thought I will be cool and able to play it and have sex like a man, but it is going up into my head. My friends (even guys) told me that if I am willing to get into it, he should make some sacrifices. Like getting me gifts and making me feel special, which I think he needs motivation to do so. I realised n hear my friends there. Since I'm getting screwed, I shouldn't feel less than a mistress or prostitue. He should make some sacrifices. I don't mean cash, I will be too paiseh to take. I just want him to know it's not free! Or rather, maybe this is for my own pride.

Spare me the flames here.. my point was made in the first and this post. I'm just wanting to hear from you hunters here who are obviously pro in closing girls, I'm sure with your strategies and so just wanna hear more.

[Stupiost]

Originally Posted by alkz

he was already not upfront and honest with you from the beginning.

Three options
1. leave him, take time to heal and be a happier person
2. continue to be in this relationship and suffer the turmoil which will affect u both mentally and physically
3. he leaves his wife and be with you but his family will always see u as 3rd party

Thanks for advising for my welfare. I know my heart wants to continue seeing him. The sex is pretty good too.. lol damn it. For the record, I don't have expectations of him leaving his wife (esp for me). We've not talked about this. But I will be glad to see his marriage blows up. But not due to me of course. I guess I'm just very selfish, since I can't have him... I admit as the women-kind, we are crazy. Stupid crazy. Anyway, his wife also never do anything to me. So I shouldn't be an ass I know. I also know my actions here so I know I am not an good person, I don't need any beat ups... esp from the wives who might be loitering here.

[alkz]

too late by now he already knows u r into him deeply...ur strategy in the 1st place is already wrong....u r not strong n smart enuff to continue playing with him....

[alkz]

leave him find a next better target and improve ur kc skills. dun give in easily the next round. guys are fucker the more he want, the more u dont give and the more he will pursue u. ultimately u need to know what u want to acheive. true love in this situation is non existence.

[Stupiost]

Originally Posted by alkz

too late by now he already knows u r into him deeply...ur strategy in the 1st place is already wrong....u r not strong n smart enuff to continue playing with him....

Any way to re strategize?

[Stupiost]

Originally Posted by alkz

leave him find a next better target and improve ur kc skills. dun give in easily the next round. guys are fucker the more he want, the more u dont give and the more he will pursue u. ultimately u need to know what u want to acheive. true love in this situation is non existence.

Have to start a new game? Can't play on this one?
But play hard to get sometimes don't guys get sick and dulan and they just find next?

[larue]

You will never know how much he wants you until he can't have you.

Then you will know exactly how much.

And maybe fill your time with other activities, you may find something else to make you happy. Never know what might turn up, except you clearly aren't happy with the current situation.

[Tai_zi21]

Originally Posted by Stupiost

The issue is that I really like him. And I'm willing to continue this. I thought I will be cool and able to play it and have sex like a man, but it is going up into my head. My friends (even guys) told me that if I am willing to get into it, he should make some sacrifices. Like getting me gifts and making me feel special, which I think he needs motivation to do so. I realised n hear my friends there. Since I'm getting screwed, I shouldn't feel less than a mistress or prostitue. He should make some sacrifices. I don't mean cash, I will be too paiseh to take. I just want him to know it's not free! Or rather, maybe this is for my own pride.

Spare me the flames here.. my point was made in the first and this post. I'm just wanting to hear from you hunters here who are obviously pro in closing girls, I'm sure with your strategies and so just wanna hear more.

A few ques for u to ask urself

1)Love is blind to most gals I guess but may I know what do u expect out from this relationship?

2)How many years are you ready to waste being together with him? Pls dun tell me enjoy while it last cos if u r enjoying u won't be having this thread

3)Lastly do u see a future with him? If not may I kindly why are u wasting ur own time?

[freezetheDB]

TS should find someone worthy of your effort instead

the man just wanna have his cake and eat it.