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this is interesting. TS bro, wouldn't it be hard to keep track on topics or questions asked/replied in WeChat? I can imagine the ultra traffic taking place there. I married for 10years and have been sexless marriage for the pass 3 or 4 years. A bad incident happened between us and I stopped having sex with my wife ever since. A wall of pillows erected between us on our bed. heehee.
this is interesting. TS bro, wouldn't it be hard to keep track on topics or questions asked/replied in WeChat? I can imagine the ultra traffic taking place there. I married for 10years and have been sexless marriage for the pass 3 or 4 years. A bad incident happened between us and I stopped having sex with my wife ever since. A wall of pillows erected between us on our bed. heehee.
We don't dwell on any topic for very long so it's no problem. It's very impromptu so we just chat anytime and then move on. Yes sometimes it's a bit to follow when there are a couple hundred of messages at a time :-D
Your experience is quite similar with some of us in the group. It's interesting how things are so similar with many of us.
Bro, you are not alone. I had (still having) similar fate like you:
married for 20 years
sex was boring, no spice, no passion, nothing to look forward
no oral sex from her, just little foreplay and then missionary
tried spice her with sex toy, porn, massage, talk dirty. Nothing works. She just not interested
touch her breast, she will cover and turn away
do kinky stuff on her she will not play along and walk away
outside brush her breast or touch her to spice up the mood, she will give me the "killer" stare
always got communication problem
she sees every small issue BIG whether with me, kids or my parents
moods swing most of the time
So......
had affair for 10 years and ended recently but we still keep in touch
sex was heavenly, hotel, parks, carparks, beach, cruise, club, toilet... u name it, we did it. Even after so many years, we were alwasy on fire when we see each other.
if we meet 7 days a week, we will have sex 7 times even during her periods
ended becos she wanted more of my time, gets very jealous (and will quarrel) when she knows i go out with wife
didn't want to hurt my family, especially the kids
miss her alot and still love her alot... but am not willing to pay the price at my family expense
Bro I feel so sad reading ur post. So many years in what i see as a abusive marriage (abused by wife psychologically). Hope you find happiness.
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We don't dwell on any topic for very long so it's no problem. It's very impromptu so we just chat anytime and then move on. Yes sometimes it's a bit to follow when there are a couple hundred of messages at a time :-D
Your experience is quite similar with some of us in the group. It's interesting how things are so similar with many of us.
haha. somehow I felt slightly better that now I am not alone. If I seek answers I will join the wechat group. Thank you TS.
Bro, you are not alone. I had (still having) similar fate like you:
married for 20 years
sex was boring, no spice, no passion, nothing to look forward
no oral sex from her, just little foreplay and then missionary
tried spice her with sex toy, porn, massage, talk dirty. Nothing works. She just not interested
touch her breast, she will cover and turn away
do kinky stuff on her she will not play along and walk away
outside brush her breast or touch her to spice up the mood, she will give me the "killer" stare
always got communication problem
she sees every small issue BIG whether with me, kids or my parents
moods swing most of the time
So......
had affair for 10 years and ended recently but we still keep in touch
sex was heavenly, hotel, parks, carparks, beach, cruise, club, toilet... u name it, we did it. Even after so many years, we were alwasy on fire when we see each other.
if we meet 7 days a week, we will have sex 7 times even during her periods
ended becos she wanted more of my time, gets very jealous (and will quarrel) when she knows i go out with wife
didn't want to hurt my family, especially the kids
miss her alot and still love her alot... but am not willing to pay the price at my family expense
when life gives lemons we make lemonade bro...
married and having an affair is not ideal. In fact I would recommend people DO NOT have affairs or eat outside.
But if they marriage is falling apart and you have tried everything from religion, to counselling, to talking, to threatening, to fighting, to arguing and you finally accept that the situation is irreversible, then you do what you do to survive and make it to the next day, the next month and next year.
At the end of the day, no matter what we sign, or what our status is, majority of people are selfish and they want something from you, or you want something from them, emotionally, physically or financially. They want things their way and when you cant give, the whip comes down on you.
I don't believe people get married to cheat. I think cheating or eating outside comes about because something has failed, and the person is trying to survive or solve the inner conflict. There are no winners, but survivors
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I was faithful for 26 years but sexless for 4 years plus 2 decades of emotional abuse...finally just told my self to hell with it and visited FL for release. Wanting to end the marriage off but just never quite got the courage ...kids are lovely and in University... feeling really sucks thinking how life has passed me by and I am still not doing anything.